my daughter rose is are mad at me she is 16 and think she know everything how can i made her listen too me
rose know im not her real her mother give her awy went she was little we fight bout boy and school alot because i wanted her to go to school and grow up to get a good job but she just mad at me all the time
You Can't. Teenagers know everything. At 16 you have to let her make her mistakes and let them live with the consequences.
T., you have my sympathy. But I can't answer your question because it's too broad. Is Rose still in school? IF so you could make an appointment to talk with a counselor.
there are several different books about raising teens that might be helpful. One is Love and Logic for Teens by Foster and Kline.
You can't 'make' her listen to you. The best strategy is to MAKE SURE that you listen to her. At least try to show understanding (even if you don't agree!)
Try to remember what it felt like to be a teenager. They feel so insecure and what your friends think of you at that age seems to be the MOST IMPORTANT THING IN LIFE! (even though we adults NOW know that it's NOT!)
Let her tell you what SHE thinks the rules should be about (whatever) the issue. Work out something that you can both agree on. Let her know that you love her and trust her and want what's best for her (even though you may not always agree. NO 2 people agree on everything!)
She needs (at age 16) to be able to make some of her own decisions. Decide together which decisions you can trust her with, but let her know that you're always there if she feels shaky with her decisions or needs another opinion on it, and especially let her know that she can always come back to you even if she makes bad decisions and gets hurt by the consequences.
I've raised 2 teenage girls and 2 boys. There is life after teenagers, but it's really INTENSE WITH them! : )
I just saw your comment that she's not your biological daughter after I posted my response. This makes it even more important that you show 'understanding' instead of giving 'unsolicited advice'. I'm sure your parenting skills are in question (by yourself AND by Rose). Let her know that YOU don't know everything either, but that you want to learn together and remain a team instead of being 'against' each other.
You both ultimately want the same thing -- for Rose to become a healthy, happy, productive adult! Right? Soften your heart, put your trust in the Lord and ask His guidance, and come to Rose with a position of the heart that shows that you want to help (from below) instead of wanting to dominate her (from above). Even the position you stand or sit in can make you seem more threatening or more receptive. Ask her to sit with you (and her father, as he should be involved) and talk things out together.
