Surrogate

Updated on April 21, 2008
C.G. asks from Richmond, TX
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Does anyone think that it is weird that I want to become a surrogate. If the timing was right I would love to have another kid of my own but me and my husband cant afford it right now so I have been thinking about giving someone who cant have a baby the opportunity. I would do the gestational surrogacy where the baby would not be biologically related to me. Has anyone else done anything like this or know some one who has. I would like to do it privately and not through a agency but I dont know how to go about doing it. Any ideas?

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J.H.

answers from San Antonio on

I just finished a failed cycle. We were to transfer 3 5-day frozen embies. None survived the thaw. We will be doing a fresh transfer in August.

It's not odd at all. Just make sure you have the support of your husband. Also, Texas is a great state to do this in. We're considered a "surro-friendly state"

I have my husband's full support and even my children think it's cool. I too am a gestational surrogate. If you want some more information, and the support of some great women, visit www.surromomsonline.com

They also have ads on there where you can find couples looking for a surrogate, or you can place your own ad.

Good luck, and if you'd like some support locally, feel free to email me via this website.

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K.I.

answers from Houston on

I have thought about it too, but my husband said no way. He knows I would be too attatchedto the baby, and we already have 4. Are you wanting to do this because you like to be pregnant, or you are wanting another child? It sounds like you want another baby. What are your valid reasons for being a surrogate? Is your husband on board with this? I am just asking because you state you want another baby, can't afford it, so you want to give someone else a baby. don't get me wrong, that is a very selfless act, and the most beautiful gift to a family that can't have kids. Most probably won't do it privately because they want a guarantee they will get the baby.I know nothing about it, i would research it online and for safety reasons, I would only go through a credible agency.
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K.W.

answers from Corpus Christi on

What a wonderful and generous thing to do. I am too old or I would have considered it when I was single. I would only do it, however, if your husband is on board 100%.

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D.C.

answers from San Antonio on

If your husband is 100% with you, then I say go for it. If he doesn't want you to, please don't. Helping someone else is not worth hurting your husband. However, I think going through an agency would be better since they can help with all of the legal issues: such as "what happens if the biological parents refuse the baby because it's 'not perfect'?" Rare, but yes, it happens. Also, the agency can make sure your medical expenses are covered. With your private medical insurance, you may not have coverage for IVF procedures, just typical pregnacy issues as if it was your own child. This way you would have a contract with the agency AND the parents to pay for this. I have friends who are going through all of the hormone therapies to get the wife ready for implantation OF HER OWN eggs, but their insurance doesn't cover this. It's out-of-pocket at about $15,000 each time for the hormone therapy and the implantation. They've done this twice now unsuccessfully and will probably wait a couple of years to save up for another round. If you do this privately, you run the risk of the parents changing their minds about paying for the treatments, how much to pay you or even whether to pay you. Again, rare, but why take the legal risk. There are a lot of questions you need to ask yourself before taking on this venture. If you look up surrogacy agencies, they will be able to answer most of your questions and bring up a few you hadn't thought of.

I researched this because I wanted to do this as well a few years ago (for the coupleI mentioned). I never brought it up to them because it turns out I am a biabetic. I will always have high-risk pregnancies. I had enough fears carrying my own babies, I didn't want that fear for a mother who has no control over the body carrying her most precious miracle. I would have loved to help someone else receive that miracle.

If you are able to help someone else, and are physically and mentally healthy enough to do so, then go for it. Good Luck and God Bless you for your loving generosity.

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S.M.

answers from Austin on

I wanted to do the same thing cause I love my kids so much that it hurt inside to know others couldnt experience the same joy. I however had some really really rough pregnancies and felt I wouldnt be a good candidate. I respect you so much for wanting to do that for someone else. I would start by looking online for moms who are wanting and needing you. They too are trying to do it without an agency. Good luck and you can make someones dreams come true.

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M.S.

answers from Honolulu on

I don't think that it's weird...I just know that I could never do it.

I think that it's an awesome thing for the person that can't have the baby themself. But I would think that after carrying a baby for 9 months, even if not biological, you would be attatached to it.

How does your husband feel about it?

I think that you have a huge heart to even consider doing this...

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