Someone at work stated that she will be having a baby for a friend. Do you think that you could ever have a baby for a stranger? Do you feel that it is wrong, even for someone that you are close to? Or maybe I am asking, wrong to ask someone this?
It is a female having a baby with a male, and signing all rights over. So, that would answer the question. But still, never heard of anything like that. Basically I guess it is a mixture of both situations.
I could not because I would worry about the baby and want to raise it.
I admire those who do and think they should be compensated.
No, I don't think is wrong, perhaps difficult but not wrong, I would do it for somebody I love, but I would prefer if it was not my egg if possible, unless is one of my daughters that needed, I would do it for them without a doubt.
I am in the process of becoming a gestational surrogate which is when there is no genetic relation between the surrogate and he baby. It is not for a person that I know. For me I think it would be harder to do it for someone that I am close to, but I would be willing to. I have had three easy pregnancies and really love being pregnant. We are done having children and are lucky to have the opportunity to help someone else. I cannot imagine life without my children and cannot wait to give someone that gift. I don't think there is anything wrong with going through an agency instead of a family member or friend. Not everyone has a person that is willing and able to carry a baby for them and this still gives the parents a chance to have their own biological child.
I was asked to do this and I agreed in a hear beat. The gift of life is the most precious gift you can give anyone. And through surrogacy you are giving the gift of life not only to the baby, but to his/her parents as well. If you are able to do something like this, I think it's selfish not to!
Our best friends are a male gay couple and I have offered to do it for them, free of charge. They will be wonderful parents one day, and I love them very much and want to help them reach that dream. I don't believe that there is ANYTHING wrong with a normal surrogate situation.
I couldn't do it, but I admire people who can.
I believe I could. I have simple, healthy, uncomplicated pregnancies, and if that was the only way a friend could be blessed with a child, then I would be willing. That is, provided it is okay with my husband (The child wouldn't be biologically ours.). Why would it be wrong? It may not be the right decision for everyone, but I don't think I understand why it would be considered wrong. Of course, I don't think of everything! =)
I think it's great that she is doing it and anyone doing it should definitely be well compensated. It is a huge thing to do. I personally could not do it - I have a 3 yo, 4 yo and am pregnant with #3. I'm turning 34 and am done after this. I don't have complicated pregnancies but it still completely wears my body out, and I couldn't do that. But good for her! And I hope she gets well paid. :-)
I see nothing wrong with it, I could NOT do it. I couldn't carry a baby for 9 months and have it not be mine. I especially could not be a surrogate, if my DNA was involved. I just can't imagine having literally part of me walking around. This is the same reason I would never donate eggs. I had a very difficult, complicated pregnancy. Even if I wanted to...I never could, because of that.
I have known one person who was a surrogate. She did everything possible to prepare herself for the birth of the baby. It was terribly hard on her psychologically, and she fell into a deep depression. This is a woman who has never struggled with depression in the past, and is a very strong, stable person. Watching her struggles and pain was so sad. She is happy the family finally had a baby of their own, but she regrets every having made that decision.
My SIL, who is the sweetest person and one of the best potential moms I know has had a really hard time getting /staying pregnant and has been trying for over 12 years. I was planning to carry a baby for her, and if my own pregnancies and births had gone a little more smoothly, I would've done it.
Unfortunately, I had pregnancy induced hypertension which put me on bedrest for the last 3 months and a c-section with my first baby, a miscarriage 12 weeks into my second pregnancy, and then a repeat c-section with my second child. I don't feel sure that I could successfully carry and deliver her a healthy child at this point, without undue risk to myself and thus, my own children's future welfare. I would hate to get her hopes all up and then end up with a miscarriage or complications that would endanger her baby as well.
I truely wish I had uneventful pregnancies and births, so I could've given her that wonderful gift. Unfortunately, it wasn't meant to be.
Jessie
I watched this episode on lifetime "one born every minute" and this woman gave up her twins. God knows the desires of your heart and sometimes it takes an extra special person to make it happen
I would think it was wrong to do it for a stranger for money. If its for someone you love, I cannot think of a bigger blessing or gift you could give someone.
My neighbor and I started trying to have a baby at the same time. That baby I was trying to have is now 2.5. She still has no baby. Its heartbreaking. I wish I could have a baby for her, but for some reason I cannot stop getting pregnant with my own. Something else Im sure is heartbreaking for her....
No, I could not do it, but I think it is amazing and generous.
For me, I think it would be terribly hard to be the biological/genetic/eggdonor mother and also carry the child. But if the egg came from someone else, that is far less strange to me.
I had actually always planned to do it. But after the birth of my first son I discovered I had a uterine malformation that causes my babies to get stuck breech. Which means they can not be turned and I will have to have c-sections. I am totally ok with that and plan to have more children. (I have two boys now) But I don't think it is a good idea for me to carry any one else's child anymore. I still think it is an amazing gift and give a lot of credit to the woman who do it. When it is done for the right reasons it is a wonderful thing.
Most surrogates do not carry a baby that is their own genetically. They go through IVF using the mother's eggs or donor eggs. It usually is not their own, and most people don't ask surrogates for their eggs, too. I could do it for someone I knew.
There are two types of surrogacy. One where the carrier mom donates and egg and carries the pregnancy. The second is where the surrogate carries the zygote but has no DNA/blood relation to it.
I wouldn't do it for a friend, but for a family member possibly. Some women LOVE being pregnant, and love to be able to help another family get a little piece of the happiness that they have. Others do it for the money.
I couldn't approach someone and ask them to do this for me, but I would be able to approach someone and ask them to let me do this for them.
M.
I could imagine doing this for my sister (who is my only sibling) but not really anyone else. I don't think it would happen however since I didn't like being pregnant and had complicated deliveries.
I worked in the adoption field and this is a wonderful way to build a family, although it comes with issues of it's own.
For a stranger - NO.
For a friend who's unable to conceive, YES I would be a surrogate (if it didn't affect my family too much and if my husband were cool with it, which he never would be).
The ONLY was I could ever give up a baby for surrogacy would be if the baby was not mine. The fertilized egg would have to be implanted in me (is that how it works?) and biologically NOT be mine. I would never be able to give up a baby if he/she came out looking like one of my other kids.
