Hi ladies. So kind of a silly question, but my husband is in sales and left today for a sales meeting/conference in Las Vegas til Saturday. Fun for him I know :) For some reason I am really down and sad about him not being here. More than usual. He usually has to go to these meetings once or twice a year, so I'm not a stranger to being home with our son alone on occasion. I of course always miss him when he is gone, usually more toward the end of the week. But for some reason I am super upset about it this time and he hasn't even landed there yet! I am 11 weeks pregnant with our 2nd child, so do you think its just the hormones? I don't know, but I don't like it. I've already cried like 3 times today- once jest because I looked outside and saw his car here. Normally, I don't cry at all when he leaves. I think I'm being kinda silly really, but I don't know how to make myself feel better. I just miss him so much. Has anyone else been like this before- or do you think its just my crazy pregnancy hormones?
Thanks Ladies. Ya, it being Vegas isn't the #1 place I'd choose, but he's been there before for work, so it doesn't really bother me too bad. I talked to him and he made me feel better. Its gonna be a long week, but I am going to do my best keeping busy. I think today was tough cause I was tired and had nothing to do but sit at home and think about him not being here. Tomorrow is a busy day, so hopefully I won't have a chance to miss him too much. Thanks again for the support.
If I was feeling like that it would have to be hormones! LOL
Actually, I enjoy my hubby's business trips. As long as I know he gets there safely & gets home safely, then all bets are off for me & my son--we do what we want, go where we want, eat what we like, etc. I think of it as a mini vacation for us!
Hang in there!
Awww, I don't think you're silly, I think you're sweet!
(And yeah, hormonal!)
My guy travels for a living and is gone most weeks tuesday through friday.
This works EXTREMELY well for us. I'm a very solitary person, and it makes me actually miss him, and be glad when he gets home. When he has stretches of working at home, I honestly can't stand the sight of him after a week or so!
Congratulations on the new pregnancy!
:)
My husband travels on a weekly basis and is gone from M-F, and I must be a terrible wife because I don't miss him at all! :-) We have 2 small kids, ages 3.5 and 1 year old, and truth be told, we're all just to used to him traveling and are in such a groove with routine when he's not here, that it's actually somewhat easier than having him around. Plus, it keeps an extrea spark in our marriage since we only have weekends together.
Anyway, I think it's lovely that you miss him, but is also due to the hormones. Try and get some extra rest while he's gone and enjoy having the house and remote to yourself. :-)
Lynsey
I do think hormones exaggerate things for us. So does lack of sleep. Did you have a sleepless night last night? Also, the fact that it is Las Vegas could exasperate it some perhaps. Sorry that you are feeling sad. It isn't silly at all. It is sweet that you miss your husband so much. My only counsel would be to be careful when you talk to him on the phone. It is fine to let him know you miss him, but try to be upbeat for him. He needs to know that you are doing okay, that you love and miss him, but not that you are so upset. Blessings!
I think hormones may definitely have something to do with it. You already know how they can make you crazy. You can't make them stop, but you can be aware that they're after you.
Try to get your mind going in a different direction. What can you be happy about, thankful for? That your husband has a JOB! That's a good one. That you have your son to take care of, and a new little one in a few months. That you are safe from the winter weather.
Get busy! Rest when you must, of course, but plan your days very well. Get your housework done. Play with your little boy. Is he old enough to draw some pictures to surprise Daddy with when he returns? Have him do one every day. Take him to the library. Bake some cookies, if it doesn't, um, disagree with you. Do you have a nursery to plan? Start doing that. You'll probably change your mind several times before #2 arrives, but the planning can help your emotions keep steady and maybe keep the tears away.
I know it sounds corny, but attitude and activity can beat the blahs, and sometimes they can even beat the hormones, too.
This has hormones written all over it.
It's also possible that being in the first trimester of pregnancy and with such a young child at home to care for alone, it stands to reason that you would feel more vulnerable and yet more responsible at the same time.
My husband travels extensively, and I really fretted when he was gone while I was pregnant. And the end of week would just be the pits. By the time he came home I would fall asleep for hours because I would be so exhausted from 'being on' while he was away.
Do you have any family or close friends you can invite over for tea or lunch or a movie? To help ease your mind that you are not alone and that you are indeed in good company?
I think our husbands are at the same conference.
I don't like it either; I think its because its in Las Vegas. I usually don't have such a problem with it, but Las Vegas, just is that, Las Vegas.
I have three children so hopefully I will survive!
Good luck. You will get through this!
I am the working parent in my family and with my last pregnancy, it made me nuts if my husband made plans to go away at all! I don't know that it's crazy pregnancy hormones, per se, but I do think it's related to being pregnant.
That said, he USED to get crazy jealous when I went on business trips, but he works part-time/lex-time for the same company, so I made arrangements one year so he could go on one of the trips he was SO jealous of. He had some fun, but not a lot, and he said it was easy to see how these trips were NO FUN for me (all the "fun" involved being with co-workers 24/7, drinking too much [which I won't do] and golfing [which I don't do]). He never said he was jealous again.
When i found out that my husband had to go to vegas for work, i was upset. I went with him... it was the best trip i ever had. We only paid for the plane ticket (work already covered his room). I brought snacks from home and ate as cheap as i could for the couple of days. I know this sounds childish, but i did not want him to expierience vegas without me. I also don't trust the town....for obvious reasons. I am sure the hormones are not helping. I wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I would not have wanted my husband there without me. Maybe next time you can go along? I am sorry that i was no help. For now i would spoil yourself. Nice long bubble baths and naps :)
Very possibly could be caused by hormones. Am wondering also if the fact that he's going to be in Las Vegas could be playing into it as well. It has a reputation as a wild and crazy partying town. Not everyone who comes out here to visit or for conferences acts like a kid let loose in a candy store though. Talk to your husband about how you are feeling and what your concerns are. If he's a good guy, he'll be there to reassure you that everything is okay.
Hope you feel better soon.
You have hormones raging.
Everyone misses their spouse when they go away some of us just get better at dealing with the absence. Plan things you can do with your son and can you meet with a few other moms for playdates to fill in the time?
Also having lived in Vegas it is not all that. Yes there is the partying for those who want to do it but most of the people there are just regular people trying to make a living. Those who do party would do that at home if they could so don't worry. You said you talked with him and he will be fine and so will you.
When he gets home have a special meal planned and enjoy each other's company.
The other S.
I agree, it's hormones. It's so sweet that you love and miss your husband so much, but like previous posts have said, try to stay upbeat when you talk to him and be grateful that he has a job.
My husband travels and like Denise P., it's a mini vacation for us. No schedules, dinner is VERY informal (pancakes tonight!) and I can watch all of the HGTV I want without feeling guilty. I miss him like you do, and it's good when he comes home!
Hang in there, it will be Saturday before you know it!
