Speaking of More Babies.....

Updated on September 17, 2012
M.R. asks from Detroit, MI
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So yeah, I am DONE having kids. I clearly love my little miraculous beings more than anything, but with the 3 of them, I am stretched thin!
I mean sometimes I feel like I am totally kicking butt at this mom of 3 thing and sometimes I feel like throwing myself out the window. :)
But anyways, I was watching Kourtney Kardashian (dont judge) pull out her second kid tonight on E!, and I have to admit, I will completely miss the feeling of meeting a brand new life I was so anxious to meet for 9 months. It seriously is the most amazing thing on the planet.
I even drove past the hospital that I had all 3 of the kids at a couple months ago and I got a sad feeling that I would never be shacked up in there again with my husband and our new life.

What the hell is going on with me?? I do not want another kid, is this feeling normal?

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D..

answers from Charlotte on

I guess I'm just different from everyone else. I NEVER felt the pangs to have a third. I wanted a little girl SO BAD, and didn't get one. But I was not willing to be pregnant at 40, just to try for a different sex. (My husband seems to make boys, so I'll bet I would have had a third boy anyway...!)

I was so glad when breastfeeding, bottles and diapers were behind me. I always enjoyed the next stage (except when it was bad behavior, LOL!)

There ya go!

Smiles! Dawn

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C.J.

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absolutely normal at least in my case, I also have three super active, loving and beautiful children (all girls :o) and they were born at the same hospital, like yours.
Every time I drive by the hospital where they were born I get such a warm feeling, and then a pang of sadness...

I have a full schedule with the girls; lessons, school, weekend outings etc etc, I cannot imagine adding one more.

BUT oh! they were adorable newborns and holding them for the first time, and welcoming them into our family, knowing they were only mine!
oh I so wish I could do it again but I know in my heart four children would be overwhelming for me...I'm already 36 YO and my youngest is 10 months, no way I would get prego right now, and waiting means getting pregnant at 39 or 40 so I totally get where you're coming from.

If I was younger I would add one more child for sure, I guess it's better this way.

anyways nothing wrong is going on with you, it's part of being a mommy I think :o)

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J.S.

answers from Minneapolis on

I'm right there with you.
I have 3 beautiful "perfect" children. They are now 7, 5 and 3. And we are done. Having a 4th kid would seriously put me over the edge but...

I've had 4 friends have new babies in the last 6 months and a cousin-in-law is currently a week past her due date... and I've had a small secret hope every month that maybe I wouldn't get my period - even though my husband had the big snip in January...

I'd say you are normal. :)

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L.B.

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I totally get it. I have four kids and I loved pregnancy and giving birth. It is just such an amazing feeling. So while there is no way on earth I would do it again I still think about the wonderful experience of it all and get melancholy . Oh, and your comment about not judging you watching the Kardashian's was really funny!

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E.C.

answers from Burlington on

Yep, totally normal. I am pregnant with my second child and I'm already certain that this is it for me and my husband. I know that I'm going to feel those pangs though after baby #2 gets to be a certain age and I see other babies, but I know my limits and my body is already starting to creak in certain places - LOL!!!

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B.C.

answers from Norfolk on

Been there
Done that
It was fun
But I am done!
I love strolling down memory lane thinking of my pregnancy and our son's baby days.
But if I spend too much time there, I'm missing the present and the future.
The hospital where I delivered built a whole new maternity building when my son was a few years old.
Who knows what ward the room I gave birth in is being used for now.
We've moved across state, so we're not near those memory trigger places anymore.
We're building new memories where we are now!

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E.V.

answers from Phoenix on

I do feel the same. Wasn't it fun to shop cute little clothings, feel the baby kick, and feel the butterfly in stomach when seeing the baby for the 1st time. Not to mention that people will prioritize us ( give up their seats, tell us to get the buffet lunch first, and we have excuse to eat a lot ).
It is normal. I really envy the new mothers at hospital, but I am scared to deliver.

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M.B.

answers from Tampa on

I think it's normal! I HATED being pregnant with my 2nd it was the worst 9months of my life! But that moment when I first held my sweet Harlee Quinn made it worth it! And that's the moment I'll miss.

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C.N.

answers from Baton Rouge on

It's normal for some people.

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J.W.

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Our daughter will be 2 in November and we plan to start trying for our 2nd (and last) baby shortly thereafter. I am already sad knowing I will only get to experience pregnancy and having a newborn one more time. However, I'm sure if we had a 3rd I'd still experience that sadness at some point. I guess it's normal no matter how many kids you have.

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