"Son's Father Has Narcissistic Personality Disorder- Help"

First, call he Texas Bar Association and file a complaint about the lawyer. Do you have medical proof of your husband's Narcissistic Personality Disorder? If so, you can probably get a judge to prohib unsupervised visitation. Unfortunately, visitation rights and child care payments are not connected, so you can't withhold visitation rights just because he doesn't pay child support, but if you can find a way of locating him and his source of income you can have a hold put on it and child support will sutomatically be taken out.

J.,

I do agree with "Johnnie" and the advice she gave you.

You did the right thing by leaving and you're also doing the right thing by trying to keep your son from this damage. Is there any place you can move to out of the state? Some family perhaps who can help out with your son's care?

My first husband was like this and I stayed married for 12 years with 2 kids. When the divorce was final he moved to England to take a job and we don't hear from him. It's been 8 years. He is very "all about himself". I never did anything right, neither did the boys, he was not big on gifts or aknowledgment of any kind unless it was infront of other people. (Just like you were saying). He would suddenly become father of the year or husband of the year, and when people were not around, he treated us like we had a disease that he didn't want. He would come home and either "let" me give him a hello kiss or he'd turn his cheek. One day I gave him a light slap instead of a kiss and told him that I was not his mother and I will not be kissing him ever! It is best that you got out of there - I will pray for you and your son - it is a nightmare to be with someone who has a personallity disorder and can't be helped.

God bless and best of luck,
D.

Get a damn good attorney. The court system sucks and does not care so much for the children of the situation. I am in a similar situation - father is the exact same way. Mine is 10 now and sees her dad for how he really is and doesn't like him so much. Anyway, you need a good attorney to get this under control.

hope that helps.

Congratulations on finally getting yourself out of the situation. Secondly, he does not have rights to visitation if he is not assisting in the raising and care of the child. Don't feel like you have to give in to his demands. Be sure to document EVERYTHING.

There is a resource called Houston Volunteer Lawyers Programs that can assist you to find "pro bono" (free) legal representation. ###-###-####.
Here is the link to their website:

http://www.ehvlp.org/clients/Resource_Referral.aspx

Please do some investigating as to what you paid the attorney for and take appropriate action to make sure that you got your services. Bad attorneys are awful and often are not held accountable.

Best of luck!

Is your ex-husband's initials JCM? He sounds EXACTLY like my ex, to a T! I am a single mother of 3 1/2 year old little girl! Unbelievable - the similarities are uncanny!