A.V.
Hi C.,
I know your woes, my 3.5 year old son is the same way! He and my hubby are best buds, and we joke that he is my hubby's "Mini-me", as they look alike too. I try to not get hurt when my son overtly shuns me in favor of his daddy, but I'd be lying if I said it didn't hurt at times. Even more hurtful is that my hubby was gone on a military deployment until our son was 5 months old, so I feel sometimes slighted that I did all the hard work of taking care of a newborn, and he isn't as attached to me. And of course he does not listen to me as well as daddy, so I have to be the heavy and send him to his room more becuase he just does not listen to me. Which, I'm sure does not help his desire to bond to me.
But I know he does loves me, and we are about to face another year long deployment, (My hubby leaves this weekend!) so I'm sure our bond will grow over the next year, though I expect it will be really rough at first.
I had hoped for a girl with our second child, so that I could have my "mini-me". I had our second child, another boy of course, just 7 weeks ago. He seems to be very attached to me already and not just becuase I'm the food source. He does seem happier in my arms over any ones elses.
I also know someone who's 1.5 year old son is a total momma's boy, and I actually would not want her situation. She cannot do ANYTHING without him, even sleeping. He is SO attached to her, she cannot even go out of his sight with out him pitching a fit. It makes date nights with her hubby and just much needed "alone time" for herself absolutely impossible, so I really do not envy that. So, I guess I'm saying that it could be worse! ;-)
I'm sure it will change as he gets older, so hang in there. Just try and make time to do some "mom and son" things if you can, that's what I'm trying to do. Just last night I tried to read him his night time story, and of course he wanted daddy, not me. But after daddy read him a book, he was then open to me curling up with him and reading him another. So we had some nice bonding time last night. Try so something like that.
Best wishes!
A.