Son and babysitter....UGH

Sounds like you need to talk to her about this. You didn't say how old he is but depending on his age, he may need to handle his nasal issues. I would think that she should replace the powder (she was the responsbile party when it got dumped) or have the parents of the other kids cover the cost.

Sounds pretty neglectful. I would look for a new babysitter.

The only defense she could possibly have for the crusty nose is that sometimes little kids HATE having their noses cleaned, especially if they are sore from being runny and wiped all the time. Sometimes, I'd have to hold my kids down crying and fighting to clean their little noses.
I did daycare and if I had a kid that was really having a hard time, I'd talk to the mom about it because not all moms were okay with their kid being held down for that. However, having a filthy face in general isn't right. I always made sure the kids' hands and faces were clean when they got picked up.
The baby powder thing? Why should you have to replace it? If it was me, as the babysitter, I would replace it if something like that happened. You supply that stuff to be used on your kid, not for other kids to play with and waste.
I would look around for another sitter. At the very least you should talk to her about keeping your son's face wiped off. A dirty face and powder being spilled aren't the worse things that can happen at daycare, but it's bothering you so you need to bring it up and let her know that.

I wish you the best!

it sounds like its time to change babysitters. you're obviously not happy with the way your son comes home every day, and are concerned about hte rashes. i suggest you start looking for someone new for your son. happy hunting.

Hi L. :-)

Hmmmmmm... it seems you have some challenges before you. The main one relating to the fact that you said it took you 5 minutes to clean your child's face the other day before he was presentable enough for a photo... so that seems to indicate there is a lot of neglect going on with regard to the care of your son.

You might want to begin to think about interviewing a few other baby sitters? It seems that your baby sitter has a daycare type situation if she is also watching two other kids who had "access" to your child's powder, which means it was not in a private place, so this sitter is responsible for replacing it.

Lots to think about with regard to whether you want this level of care to continue for your child. You first mentioned his cold has been a week long and every day you have found him with dry mucous stuck on his nose. Look at all of the events at the end of the day and compare them to what your expectations are for your child's care and if they don't match, it might be time to consider a new sitter.
hugs,
A. R.N., Energy Medicine Practitioiner

Hi, L.:

First you need to do an assessment.

How old is your babysitter?

How long has she been babysitting?

How many children does she babysit and how old are they?

Secondly,
Once you make an assessment that she is inexperienced, young, and has a number of babies....or whatever you have assessed.

Thirdly, Make a plan of action. What are you going to do about it? Give her a list of things you expect when you pick up your child. Question: What kind of contract did you have when she started babysitting for you?

The responsibility of the care that you expect needs to be renegotiated. Everything written down and explained and signed.
Good luck.
D.

Well it sounds like you are beyond frustrated. you have two options, you can confront her all your issues with her and tell her you need to see a change or you will find a new sitter, and then if no change do it, or you can just find a new sitter now. I would not replace the powder, she was the one who had it and lost it, by not supervising effectively. Yes, more than one kid is tough and things will happen, BUT it is still her responsibility. I would explain that to her and let her know that you understand things happen, but that it happened on her watch and in her care, so she would need to replace it. If she is unwilling find a new sitter, because this is just common courtesy. I worked as a Nanny for many years both in my home and theirs. And if something happened even in their home, and I was the one in charge, I replaced it. Yes, things happen and that can't be helped we are all human. Now the boogers thing bothers me a lot too, but I too am a clean Mom and I hate when i find I missed a spot on my kids faces. I am always wiping, wiping and wiping, and once they are old enough to wipe themselves I supervise their wiping. So I understand your frustration with that I would ask her to keep him clean, especially if he sensitive skin and possible allergy as shown by the rash. Now the rash could be she is leaving him dirty too long after eating, or it could be an allergy to something in her home/facility. I would have him tested to be sure he is not having allergic reactions to things. Before doing that, you can ask her to make a list of everything he comes in contact with at her home/facility so you can figure out if something could be bothering him. Look at the list and see if anything is different than your house. Have her include detergents and all cleaning products he comes in contact with as well as food and other environmental things such as pets, etc. Good luck and I wish you the best. It is so hard to find the perfect sitter for your child.

I wouldn't make it a big deal, but just ask her nicely to wash his face and hands before you come to pick him up. I think its a reasonable request-- you can't expect her to do it ALL the time, but most of the time should be doable. Plus if she has other kids she is watching, she should be washing their hands frequently (face too if needed). As for the baby powder, you can find it at the Dollar Tree. No biggie....

She sounds neglectful. Rash on his mouth and cheek? What's that even from... have you asked a doctor? I'd be weary about that babysitter. Who knows what happens there because it sounds like she sits on her butt all day. Please get a new babysitter :) You shouldn't clean your childs face for 5 mins when you pick them up from the babysitter... that's just ridiculous. That type of rash can be from allowing smeared food to remain too long on his face.. but who knows? That's odd.

Not defending you babysitter but your son isn't the only child there everyday. She has to take care of them as well. I have 4 kids all my own and when my youngest son gets a runny nose it can take a car ride to the store and it is crusted to his face. He hates to have it washed as it hurts his nose to scrub it so he fights me.

If your son has a rash on his face get him in to the ped to find out what it is...don't just blame it on the babysitter or his face being messy. It could be an allergy.

Also count your lucky stars that when he is sick he can go to the babysitters...most places school included sick little ones are not aloud to attend.

You have written a few times about your babysitter and how she has not done things your way or what not I think you just need to take him somewhere else at this point.

Well... not many Babysitters... will watch sick kids.
Much less with other kids around.
So... maybe that is the only 1 good thing, about her.

But, I would find another sitter.