Need Advice on Babysitter

I think you should mention it to her that you have replaced it but if it is wasted this way again you would expect that either she replace it (since she was supervising when it was dumped) or she should have those responsible replace it. It isn't the cost but the principal of the thing.

yeah--focus on one big thing instead of all these things. Accidents happen--let the powder go and ask for her to put it out of reach. So what is the bigger issue for you the dried mucus or the rash? I would imagine the rash--do you know why he has a rash from there and not from your home? As for the nose issue--have you tried watching more than one or two children at a time when they all have runny noses? Are you picking up right after nap when it is hard to pry this yuck off a child's face without them screaming? Just a thought--try to put yourself in her shoes before "confronting" her. Is this the first set of issues you've had with her --you seem a little confrontational.

Edit--from your previous posts it seems like there are enough little things that are bothering you that confronting this woman again is dumb. Just get a new sitter. If you are very set on how things need to be done with your child and she is not of that philosophy on alot of things then go. Its not worth stressing yourself out over it. Find someone that is a better match to your parenting style or if finances allow get a nanny or stay home yourself.

The things you mention don't seem like it would be necessary to "confront" your sitter. If your son has a constant runny nose, I'm sure she tries to wipe it often. Is it that she doesn't bother to clean your sons face at all, or is something that needs to be done constantly and she doesn't have the time to address it. Do you know what the rash is from? Is it just chapped skin? Is it from an allergic reaction? If he has very sensitive skin, maybe the air in her house is too dry for him, there's not much she can do about that. Before you talk to her, make sure you know the answer to these questions, and calmly explain to her what changes you expect to be made.

It would be best to discuss this things with her when she's not busy. You could start the conversation with "There are a few minor things that I have concerns about and would like to talk to you when you have a few minutes."

As far as the baby powder, I would just buy a new one, accidents happen. If something similar happens again, then I would say something and have her replace it.

I would start looking for another sitter. I have seen your previous posts and it is apparent that you are just not comfortable with this sitter. It's not saying that it's really her or you. You two just don't fit each other. As someone has already said here, your parenting styles don't match.

I would start searching for another sitter. Find one that you really do feel comfortable with. And make sure you keep all these things in mind that bother you about this one. Maybe you didn't realize it before when you were interviewing. I'm assuming this is your first child. When you find a replacement you can give your 2 weeks notice.

I hate to say it but if you don't find someone else you are just going to drive yourself nuts! There are going to be constant problems because you are not happy with how she is raising your son when you are not around.

Your first concern is his safety. Really, I would start looking for another babysitter. Ask that the powder not be played with but don't ask for payment, that is petty. Focus on your son's safety while in her care.

I would let the baby powder slide. It's cheap and go buy another.
Just politley ask if this new container can be put in a place away from the other kids.
Focus on one issue and you'll get better results when you talk to her.

What is your one concern, the "BIG One" and that's what you should address.

You don't have to her if something is bothering you just say so. Just mention junior has very sensitive skin can you make sure to try to keep the boogiea off his face. That's it she should get the point any make more of an effort to keep his face clean. As far as the baby powder just let it go this once, get one from the dollar store, I am sure she doesn't want to clean up powder any more than you want to replace one. Are these the only issues? If so they seem minor. Is he happy? Tended to? Diapers changes regularly? Does he like her? Does she seem to show concern and love for him as well as listen to your wishes? Does she seem to have common sense? Is her house clean? If you don't like her find another sitter, nothing wrong with that, you have to find someone that is a good match.

I'd tell her she's fired... Oh sorry, I'm a bit mean lol. She seems very neglectful and I would be scared my son'd be in danger or she's hurting him... nope, I'd have a new sitter. Rash around the mouth and when you spend 5 mins cleaning his face for pictures? She'd be gone.

I don't see why you need to "confront" your babysitter. You certainly need to ask about the rash and that you didn't see the need for the dirty area around his nose and face. Ask what she uses to wipe his face, if she is using diaper wipes, they are likely too harsh. Ask that she use wash clothes, even provide them for your son, also ask if she uses soap when wiping it off, perhaps what she uses is too harsh, perhaps plain warm water after a snack and meals would be enough, soap only when necessary. baby power really isn't necessary and harmful for lungs, but really not a big deal that it got spilled, how do you know it was the other kids? it sounds like it is time for you to schedule a time where you chat about things and see if you feel comfortable in keeping her as your babysitter. Communication is so important, it is my one big issue as a home child care provider, you need to express, nicely of course, any issues or problems that you see. It is the way for things to be resolved, and if it doeesn't change, then switch, but you likely won't find the perfect babysitter, keep in mind, you may switch one issue for something else.