Sleeping with Baby

Hello

It is ok sometimes but you really don't want the baby to get use to it because it will be hard to break them of that. Congrats on becoming a mom Enjoy every moment they grow up fast

Congratulations on your newborn. I used to fall asleep with my daughter all the time.Be careful not to roll over on your baby. One thing though is be careful with that, once the baby is used to sleeping in your bed it will be really really hard to get them to sleep in their own crib.

T.,

The best advice a mother ever gave me was: when the baby is napping you should nap. I was able to stay home for 9 months with my son (now 7) and I would nap when he did. This helped me when I had to wake up at 12am and 3am and then start my day at 6am. I would also catch a 20 minutes power nap when I had to start going back to work and get up through the night.

So no i do not think anything is wrong that you sleep when your baby does. Stay strong and healthy.

M.

My first I did sleep with alot. As long as you are aware they are there, I didn't see a problem. My second daughter i did it with and she is now sleeping in her crib through the night at 5 1/2 months.

Yes. It is more than OK, it is beautiful! And sometimes it is the only way to get any sleep and keep your sanity! Don't let anyone tell you it's wrong, you sleep with your baby as long as the both of you want to. You are creating a strong bond between you and your baby by sharing so much time close in bed. Don't ever question yourself when it feels right, your doing great, keep follwing your intuition.

T., I have four kids myself and with my first, which is now 21 yrs old, I fell asleep one night and if it wouldn't have been because my husband woke up and happen to see that I had turned slightly over her, she wouldn't be 21 today, but dead.

Please, be careful how you sleep with the baby, it is very dangerous because especially being a first time mom, one is SO TIRED that you really go into a deep sleep and might hurt the baby. It has happed to many mothers in the past.

I wish you and your baby the best, and may you enjoy you child for many many years to come.

God bless,
M.

First of all - CONGRATULATIONS!! Secondly, good luck w/ your leukemia treatments.

I agree w/ the other responses that it is definitely okay to sleep with your baby. I have 3 children (13, 10 1/2 & 4) - they ALL slept with me. None ever fell out of the bed, I never rolled on top of any of them. If you are worried about rolling on them you can buy a tandem bed that is much like a pack-n-play that actuallly attaches to the side of your bed and is at the level of your mattress.

Check out www.askdrsears.com for more great information about the MANY BENEFITS of co-sleeping.

And by the way....all three of my children are very happy, independent, self confident children. You cannot "spoil" a child by making them feel safe & secure by your side.

I would not sleep with baby in arms or bed, you have the chance of the baby falling out of your arms to the floor or rolling over on infant and suffocating baby. It's best to feed baby then put back to bed. To many things can go wrong if you fall asleep holding your baby

Congratulations T.! My son is 12 weeks old and still sleeps with me. I had to go back to work when he was 3 weeks old. Sleep is hard to come by. I am a light sleeper since he was born, soeverytime that he moves I wake up. Just don't do it if you are a heavy sleeper. Make sure that there aren't any pillows around him or heavy blankets. Sleeping with my baby gives us a chance to bond since I had to go back to work so early. He usually sleeps through the night. I still make sure he sleeps in his crib during daytime naps so that it is an easier transition later!

Misfortune can happen to anyone. I believe in fate. I believe that if something bad is going to happen, it will and there is nothing that can be done. I wouldn't worry though. Chances are that everything will be fine!

Yes, it is very normal. You are exhausted from giving birth, the round-the-clock attention a baby needs, as well as other family duties, and from nursing. Yes, breastfeeding makes you tired as well since your body is being drained. For me, every time my child latched on, I fell asleep, particularly at night. I have slept with my baby on the couch and so has my husband, also taken naps with my baby on the other side of the bed in a co-sleeper. It is normal; however, it can also be very dangerous. I don't know the stats, but many babies die each year from being smothered by the parent who has rolled over on them or allowed them to slip down the side of her body. You say to yourself that you would know if that happened, well, odds are you would not. Did you intentionally fall asleep with your child? Not usually. You are so tired, it just happens. It is one thing to sleep with a child when a spouse or friend is there and you are on the couch and can be looked after, but another if you are alone. It is safer and a better piece of mind to nurse in a seating position and then place the baby in his crib right after. Then, both of you take a nap. Enjoy this time together because there is nothing like your first. Sleep when your baby sleeps and don't worry about too much else if you don't have to. Congratulations!

hi T.,

are you kidding?? it is perfectly normal to fall asleep when you have a new born.
just make sure you fall asleep in a safe place so you dont have to worry about the baby rolling or wiggling off the bed or couch.
Sometimes i would fall asleep (especially in the am hours)
with my daughter and wake up suddenly wondering if she had even finished her bottle. so i know what you mean.

Actually, if you dont have anything you need to do .....I would sleep whenever the baby sleeps.
You need the sleep as much as the baby; and dont worry you will get a schedule going before you know it.
Congrats on the new baby,
S.

T.,
I believe it is normal. I breastfed both my children and would frequently fall alseep with them next to me. It made it alot easier to take care of them as newborns, however I'm not sure how safe it is. Since my first daughter was born my sleep changed dramatically. I became a very light sleeper and just about any little tiny noise or movement would wake me up. If you aren't a light sleeper I would not reccomend it.

Yes u fall asleep cause u are tired just like ur baby.

I slept with my daughter, but I had her in a "Snuggle Nest" it's this little mattress thingy with sides so you can't roll over on the baby. You can still have your hand on them and touch them, but there are less worries. Just be careful cause if you make it a habit it may be hard to break it later. We had her in bed with us in the snuggle till she was 2 months, 2-4 months she was in a cradle in her room and about 4 1/2 months she went into the crib in her room. Good luck with your new addition!

Sure! You just had your baby! Sleep when the baby sleeps. You need your rest. :) Just be sure to sleep safely with your baby. No pillows near the baby or blankets. Have a look at this site for more info on co sleeping. :)

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070100.asp

Congrats mama! PLEASE do not let ANYONE tell you that you are spoiling the baby...you aren't and you CAN'T!

Dear T.,

Congrats on your baby!! To answer your question regarding sleep. Yes, it is normal to fall asleep but I read every book I could regarding babies and one of them had frightful statistics regarding accidents that happened to the baby when it slept with adults. I fell asleep many times during feeding but would always wake up and put the baby back in her bassinet which was next to my bed. We get so-o-o tired with newborns that I did not want to take any chances. Another book The Baby Whisperer by Tracy Haag, states that the sooner you get them used to sleeping in their own bed the easier things will be as they change and get older.

So there you have it. Good Luck!

D.

I had my first daughter sleep with us until she was 3 months old. She slept on my chest while I propped myself up with an extra pillow. My 5 month old still sleeps with us (and still nurses). There is nothing wrong with it, as long as you are not a deep sleeper and take a few precautions. It was the only way we've been able to get enough sleep. It really is up to you.

Congradulations on your little one! I just had my fist in April, and I used to fall asleep with him all the time. weather I was breastfeeding or just on the couch. It really used to scare me, but ant time I started to relax while I was sleeping, I would wake up. I hope this helps.

Hi T.,
I am guilty of doing this myself. I have 4 boys, and my youngest is 7wks, so I continue to do this. I am a very light sleeper, so I feel I am ok. They don't recommend this due do maybe your partner is a heavy sleeper and will roll over and
swish the baby... I prop myself up with my pillows against my headboard in bed at night and use my boppy to help support his head while nursing him. I dose off, and they say that b/feeding does make you more relaxed and all, so feeling sleepy is normal too. If you do do this and you don't trust yourself, especially as a new mom, they do have those special little divider bed things to put in your bed, so the baby is safer. You need rest too, and in the beginning the baby really still wants that warm comfort of your body close to them...

I hope this helps and know that we all are in the same boat!

Regards,
Dianna
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i have 4 children and my first slept with me until about nine months and she did not sleep on her own until she was 2yrs old.my second child I was alot smarter and put him in his crib right away. he slept through the night at 6 weeks. my next 2 I put them right into the crib. I believe it is the best thing for the kids and you. they learn how to fall asleep on their own.if you have any questions you can email me at ____@____.com

Definetly totally normal, just take proper precautions - no big fluffy blankets around the baby, no fluffy pillows around baby, and be aware of your surroundings and limitations. I co-slept with my two younger kids - the key really is doing it wisely... If you're breast-feeding hormones are released during nursing that make you sleepy - use it as an excuse to catch up on your sleep!

I think it is quite normal to fall asleep with your baby. I have two children (4 and 1 year). My daughter was a horrible sleeper as a baby and the only way I survived the first year was to fall asleep with her while she was breastfeeding - and later on when she took a bottle. My son was a great sleeper from the start. When putting him to bed at night I still sometimes doze off in the rocking chair with him. Enjoy motherhood and do what you feel works best for you.

T. - you just gave birth ten days ago! Of course it's normal to fall asleep - you are exhausted. Giving birth is quite an ordeal to your body, mind and soul and being a leukemia patient on top of all that - YES, girl - it's normal!
Just make sure you use a boppy pillow if you're nursing so you the baby doesn't slip out of your arms. Take the opportunity to put your baby to sleep and you go take a nap! You'll both feel better before you know it!
Congratulations on nursing - stick with it - you should be proud of yourself!

I agree 100% with Jennifer...you do what feels right. A baby is the most beautiful thing that could ever happen...enjoy it...(my mom told me the same thing, because when they become teenagers your gonna need all those wonderful memories...LOL)

ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!
Time is of little measure when you bring a baby into the house. They tend to mold the shedule of things. Grab sleep when you can. The dishes and laundry and floors can all wait. If you try to it all you feel like your spinning your wheels. Constantly doing, doing, doing........
Rest when you can, PLUS your bonding with the little one.

No absolutely not! If something happened, ie you roll on him, a pillow sufficates him, a blanket stops his breathing whatever- it is not ok. You can bond with your child by rocking him, holding him, loving him in many different ways. If he mus sleep with you try a co sleeper, they are a little pricey, but worth your baby's life! Please be very careful about puting your baby in the bed. A member of our church lost their baby by letting it sleep in the bed and the pillow suffocated him. Please be very careful

it is very hard being a mother. You will be so tired you won't be able to move. Put your baby somewhere safe to rest so you to can rest peacefully with out any worries! You will not regret it.

Plus, just read the posts about parents not being able to get their kids out of their bed at 2,3,4,5 yrs and older!

Good luk with the baby and your treatments

With my first I did it all the time. It was kind of like a special time between us. I would just recommend that you don't do it all the time and ween off it as your baby gets bigger. Or as they get older they will want to do it even if you don't.

K.

As a mother of a 1 year old boy it is ok to fall asleep with your child. My husband and I both have fallen asleep with our son many times. Just make sure your surrondings are safe. Like if your on a couch make sure you have pillows and what not around the baby just in case you forget your holding him/her. But its totally ok to fall asleep with your babt. Congrats. You had your baby on my sons 1st birthday. LOL

I have slept with my 4 month old since he was born. I nurse him laying on my side. He sleeps contently when he is done eating. He is down to 1 feeding at night at 4 am. After he eats he sleeps with us until wake up time. The official term is "co-sleeping" check it out at www.breastfeeding.com"