Sleeping in Our Bed

Of the 4 responses that you've had so far, I agree more with Susan and C'Ella H. Perhaps something has happened that you may not be aware of.Are all her teeth in? Could she be getting her 2yr molars?
Also, the thought of CIO with a limited or non-verbal child (however vocal they may be) -- breaks my heart. Their chief form of communication is crying. I am of the firm belief that babies and small children do not manipulate. I believe they simply don't know how. They know what they want and how they feel, even if they can't label it yet.
I would be more inclined to help your daughter feel secure in your love for her and safe knowing that whatever might be freaking her out at bedtime that Mommy and Daddy will hold her and make it alright. Yes, some kids need/want this kind of reassurance 'til they're 4+ years old. Personally, my response is 'so what' - they grow up so fast. Why speed up the process?

hope you find some of this helpful. Good luck with sleep :-)

K. H, mama to
Catherine, 4yrs -- in our bed 'til 13mos, in our room much longer and even now on some occasions
Samuel, 1yr - in our bed, still nursing at night b/c of pain from teething

You are going to have to let her CIO (Cry it out). There are books on it. It will take a week sometimes, but it works. SHe is MANIPULATING you and she is winning.
Here is a synopsis of Ferber's Method:
Dr. Richard Ferber discusses and outlines a wide range of practices to teach an infant to sleep. The term Ferberization is now popularly used to refer to the following techniques:

Take steps to prepare the baby to sleep. This includes night-time rituals and day-time activities.
At bedtime, leave the child in bed and leave the room.
Return at progressively increasing intervals to comfort the baby (without picking him up). For example, on the first night, some scenarios call for returning first after three minutes, then after five minutes, and thereafter each ten minutes, until the baby is asleep.
Each subsequent night, return at intervals longer than the night before. For example, the second night may call for returning first after five minutes, then after ten minutes, and thereafter each twelve minutes, until the baby is asleep.

My son slept through the night till 14 months. It was hell for about two months, when someone gave me the same advice.
GOOD LUCK

If she is calling out for all your family members then maybe she just needs reassurance that she is not alone.
Have you tried just going in to comfort her and then leaving. It may take a while but it may work.
Or, move her crib into your room. That way she is not sleeping with you but can still see you and talk to you. If you do this you may have to be extra extra firm about "this is your bed and you must go to sleep here, not in mommy's bed".
Or, maybe moving her into a siblings room? I dont know what kind of havoc that would cause.
It just sounds like she is lonely.
If sleeping with her in your bed is just not an option...then IMO it is just going to be rough for awhile and eventually she will figure out that you are not going to give in and she will start sleeping again.
My obnoxious advise is this...
go get her, squeeze her tight, love her extra and snuggle her right beside you. She is so little. It will pass so fast.
Humans are the only beings (American humans being the worst) on the planet that make their babies sleep in cold, lonely beds in separate rooms from everyone else.
Some babies just do fine with this. (I had one that preferred his own space to spread out. He passes out and does not wake til morning.)
But others just really need the extra touch and presence. They need it so much that they wake to find it.
I know your heart cries with her! I encourage you to go with her on this and know that she is not manipulating you at this age. She is just crying out and in need. What a beautiful thing to be able to meet that need for her.
See...I told you that would be obnoxious!
You gotta do what works for your family.
Blessings!
B.

Sounds like something is really bothering her. Could there be something new? New outdoor noises or lights, new care giver, new sibling? If she was fine before and not now I would want to know the cause. Perhaps bad dreams? A popular toddler TV show once scared one of mine. A noisy trash truck in the wee hours was another culprit in my brood. I bet if you can figure out *and fix* the anxiety, she will go back to sleeping happily.

If you really don't want to share the bed you could offer a pallet on the floor in your room so she can feel safe with you - but closer to your comfort zone.

Best wishes.

We started laying with them in their bed until they fell asleep. It works! Try a consistent bedtime routine, like bath, story in their bed and lay with them. They will get use to it and as time goes by ease out of the room. I use to tell my little one after a while that mommy will be right back, by the time I went back she would be asleep! Good luck!

I'd let her sleep with you. If you don't want her in your bed, then I would move the crib into your room. She obviously wants to be close to you, and that's okay. She just needs some help getting through this stage. It sounds like it might be a little separation anxiety, so you should reassure her by making sure you're close by.

I noticed someone suggested Cry-It-Out, do NOT do this, please. It's just not right, in fact it's cruel. Babies are NOT manipulative. They cry because it is the only way they can communicate.

Take it from me my friend, don't give in. You will end up with her in bed with ya'll @ 4 like mine. LOL. Now we are trying to make him go in his own room. Hang in there. Lay with her until she falls asleep and if she wakes up, keep putting her back in her bed.

Good luck,
J.