H.C.
J.,
I don't know how you feel about therapy, and I don't want to imply that your grandson is "wrong" in anyway, but it sounds like he may benefit from the opportunity to talk to a neutral party about his feelings. While he gets much reassurance from you, he obviously has a lot of issues with his mother & this is the area that needs help. There's nothing you can do to make his mother change her ways unless she wants to, but you CAN help your grandson deal with it better & ease some of his anxiety toward his mother. A good child therapist can help him tremendously. If he does not deal with these issues now, they will become a problem later in life...not just acting out in school, but his future relationships as well. I am a strong advocate of therapy, as my husband was abused as a child & therapy turned his life around. I hope you will consider it for your grandson & wish you luck!