Troubled 6 Year Old Step Son

What a horrible woman... sorry I had to get that out. I feel so badly for your son (he is your son not hers because a mother is the one that considers his needs and loves him unconditionally not the one who got pregnant and gave birth) Your fiance is a stand up man as well to take responsibility unlike the other sorry excuse for a parent this child has. I think your fiance and you need to sue for full custody and adoption if you can because it isnt healthy to have a parent who wants to play mommy when it is convenient to do so... IMy father was always in an out of my life (he is an addict).,..still makes broken promises ... I would have rathered him not in my life than to have the constant knowing and wondering what is wrong with you... I suggest a differant counselor ... that little boy feels rejected by her because she wont make time for him or show him love ..and he is right to feel that way.... I hope every thing works out for you and your little boy can feel happy and secure ... at least he has you and your fiance ... I wish you luck ... and applaud you for being the mother your son needs..!!

First off God Bless you for the care you give your son. Try letting him write a letter to her and if possible ask him if he would like you to adopt him. Then you would be his only real mom. Get family counseling. Let him help with his brother as much as possible get him a gift from your other son that says to greatest big brother for christmas. Have your fiance tell the egg donor that unless she plans on being a real presence in his life she needs to stay out altogether. Her bringing up the other kids will only serve to telling him he is less important than they are to her. Just continue to be the best mother to both of them you can be. My squatter son (this is what he now says he is to me)came home from school with my son one day and never left. I called his mom to see if she knew he was staying at my house her response was oh ok whatever. He was 12 and had been at my house for 2 weeks before I got ahold of her. She never called visited or wrote after that. I filed for custody and all she never even showed up in court. When he was planning his wedding and his fiance was pregnant he got ahold of her and told her about everything even invited her the only response was well why are you calling me what do you want me to do about it. So when his daughter is born in February this grandma will be there. Love is thicker than blood. You have a hard job ahead of you but it will reap you many rewards later. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY

hi , this is my first answer, don't take him to whoever told you to put the child on meds , personally i think that is so wrong to try to make all children so robotic , he is angry , angry is an emotion , and ya know what I would say it is ok to be mad , she did him wrong., I am guessing that after anger he will probably feel sad , what I would do , and this is Me , is I would go to court and have visitations reset , maybe even attempt to terminate her parental rights , maybe she would agree to it , who knows , if not , I would absolutely put my foor down and tell her flat out to stop being hurtful and disapointing, and it is up to you and dad to make that stop , I simply would NOT allow it to continue , and , talk to him alot , you could try explaining to him that some people do their best , but that sometimes their best really stinks. I
believe that if you cut down the number of conversations she is allowed to have with him , the fewer broken promises he will have to suffer through , and in time he will feel better. I hope this helped. I would like to add that my hubby is a stepdad of 3 and all together we have 4 children , My son is 9 now , and we went through similiar things for a short period of time , my Aim is Chicklettes6 if ya want to chat I am a stay at home mom , so I am around , best of luck.

Hi N.,
i give you kudos for raising your stepson as your own chils. that is horrible for his biological mother to do that to him. i feel for him and it sounds like you are doing the best job you can with him. he knows he is loved by you and your family, but dose't stop the hurt he feels towards her. he feels abandoned by her even though he is loved by you and your husband. keep up the good work and keep reassuring him how much he is loved and reassure him her abandoning him is not his fault and she is the one missing out and your sorry how hurt he is by all this and just let him know you are always there for whatever he needs and let him know will not disapper or abandon him. i am sorry if i cannot offer some more solid advice but i would keep doing what your doing and maybe you could help him write her a letter expressing his hurt and anger towards her. good luck and keep us posted. my e-mail is ____@____.com if you ever want to chat. my name is kelly and i am 29 yrs old from mass. i have 10 yr old son and 4 month old son as well. they are the love of my life

Hi
I would suggest finding a therapist specializing in play therapy. They will be able to let him work out his feelings in a child's natural way. They will also be able to provide you with helpful suggestions. Medicine is not always the answer so you just have to find the people who understand that. I know MSPCC has play therapists.

think on his level a little tell him that when he was born that daddy was teh ONLY ONE around to take care of him (u as well) but let him no that hes better off with out her if that is how she wants to be make her to to a court and maybe he should tell her how he feels bc u would be pissed if my Real mom had 2 more and wanted nothin to do with me ... this might just have to be sumthin that he might have to do so that he can get OVER her and no that hes where he needs to be with LOVEIN Parents and with family that Love him.. hes old euff to no what is goin on now that she had maybemade promisses that she cant make and its now hittin him..i might be best to have him flip out on her to let her no what she has done with her broke wishes and broken promisses... u no what i mean..and i agree with the other ones she dont love him she cares about him U and his father LOVE him with his little brother .. jsut keep tellin him u there and ur not goin anywhere as well as ur family No one is goin anywhere .. tell him sum ppl in this world think that they can have there cake and eat it to and there isnt anyhtin that can be done but look at what he has now a FAMILY that Loves him and will never leave him even if he does the Stuipest thing....

Good Luck Hope SANTA was good to teh boys...( sry abot spellin i have a brace on the rigt hand and it dont work very well ) LoL....

J. Marie

What about adoption, do you think she would be open to letting you adopt him? how would he feel about that? Also be sure to let him know that there is nothing wrong with him. His mother is the way she is because of her, not him. That is soo important for him to know. Take Care

good for you for being there with him-- I would just tell him that you are his mom and you love him so much!! Anything that she does or says to him he should consider as a bonus