My 13 month old still wakes up during the night. I breast fed her for a little more than 12 months. Now she is still waking up screaming and I want to get her to be able to sleep all night. Any advise please.
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Whatever you do please do not make her cry it out. The No Cry Sleep Solution could be a good choice.
I know it is hard, but we are mothers at 2 a.m., and babies sometimes need to be "parented to sleep." She has just lost one of her favorite things in the world, please don't deny her of you when she wakes up crying.
Can she sleep with you? Co-sleeping can be a great way to reconnect with her while getting some much needed sleep. I really feel like mainstream parenting needs a make over. Please check out Attachment Parenting. It will bring peace to your home.
Oh I feel your pain. My daughter nursed until she was 14 months and then I HAD to stop.I broke her cold turkey and that was the worst two weeks of our life. She and my son (3 1/2) still wake up in the middle of the night. They need a drink, go potty, need a toy, a new blanket. The needs are endless. Now they go right back to sleep after we tell them enough, but when they were your baby's age, that was not the case. I would have to rock them back to sleep or put them in a little bed in my room. They loved that. You baby is going through a seperation stage and it will pass. Good luck. I think we will get a full nights rest when they are off to college. lol. Oh the joys of motherhood. I still would not trade it for the world.
My first son didn't sleep through the night until 18mo. My 12mo old is still waking a couple times a night. Each child has their own biomechanical rhythms and development. One book I found particularly helpful was "The No-Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantly. Hope you're able to get some rest!
A small snack of baby cereal a little before bedtime and a warm bubble bath w/ Johnson's bedtime bath worked for mine.
I wrote this on here earlier, but something else that helped us was hubby and I recording ourselves reading favorite books on a cassette tape. For our girls it was comforting to hear us "reading" the stories to them...it is still helpful on nights when we have babysitters through bedtime.
Hope you find something that works for you! Have a great day!
~M
I to nursed for the first 13 months. My son just start sleeping through the night. He is 33 months now. I am sorry, I do not have much for you. I gave him a tippy of milk at bed time and he finally stared to sleep all night about 3 months later. We would put him back in bed and tell him night - night. But 13 months, they do not understand. I think it's a habit they have to learn to break. Good luck with this. I to was there and I know it's hard for you to get a good night sleep while your little one is waking up. Please just do not let them cry it out. This is not the way to have a safe feeling baby. They need you and need to know you will be there for them. As adults, we do not like to feel alone. Think about the baby, it's a big dark world in the night. Plus when you stop nursing, they need to feel secure still. Our two older children were rocked to sleep for 3 years and they sleep great all night in their own rooms.
I have a 20 month that still wakes up in the middle of the night so if you find a solution please fill me in!!! I completely understand where you are coming from!
Babies/children need to learn how to fall asleep by themselves. If they are rocked to sleep every night or fall asleep on the bottle, when they do wake up in the middle of the night, they will need the same thing to fall back asleep. People wake up quite often during the night. We just don't realize it because we fall back to sleep quickly. The best thing you can do for your baby is to teach her how to fall asleep on her own. Start with a bedtime routine and realize that she is going to cry. As long as you know she is safe and not hurt, she can cry a little. The best method I have heard is to let them cry for 5 minutes, check on them, then go 10 minutes, check on them, 15 minutes etc. You can go in and pat them but DO NOT pick her up. Every time you pick her up you are reinforcing to her that you will come and do that and that is exactly what she wants. It may sound harch initially however a rested child is a happy child. Teaching your child to fall asleep and stay asleep is one of the best gifts you can give her.
My little guy is 14 months old. He went through the waking up screaming stage not so long ago. I was tiring, so one night I forgot to turn on the baby monitor. My husband and I had a great night of sleep and have no idea if our son woke up or not, but we all lived through it and he started sleeping through the night. So, give yourself permission to let her cry a couple of nights and she'll figure it out. And you know her cries by now, so if it's not "I'm hurt or need help," she'll be fine. Good luck.
The only thing I can think of is if you don't have a bathtime routine make one. I usually give my son a warm bath, brush his teeth and then read to him. He is now 3 but when he was around your child's age I put on the radio in his room and it seemed to help him sleep along with a night light in case of boogyman or monster problems.
I have a 14 week old who sleeps through the nightand that I breadfeed, so I do not have experience with the stage of developement that you daughter is in, but this is what I did to help him learn to fall asleep. After you are sure that she is feeling OK (no stomach issues or anything), then you could use the technique of letting her cry/scream for a few minutes (3-5), go into her room and verbally reassure her, let her cry a few more minutes (5-10), go into her room and reassure her for a couple of minutes (she may not quite crying), and continue doing this every 15 minutes or so. I lay my son down awake and the majority of nights he goes right to sleep, but when he does cry it may be for about 10 minutes and not more than 30 minutes on a "bad" night when he is over-exhausted. However, in the beginning, we went through this cycle for up to a couple of hours and it took a couple of weeks of consistency. Keeping my eye on the clock helps me to not feel bad...I realize that it has only been a few minutes.
I wish I could offer advice... I'm hoping to gain some from the responses that are sent to you, mine is 18mos old now. Everyone told me try letting her cry it out and I did... it was awful and now she goes to sleep without fighting it but... I think it's cruel not to go in there when she cries just to make sure she hasn't pooped, or hurt herslf, or something... so, she cries out, I go in and lay her back down and she goes back to sleep without throwing a fit or fighting me, but she does this 3-4x a night... she just won't sleep the night through... I hope you get some good answers. I'm praying for both of us and every other mother out there going through the same thing... we need sleep too!!!
