You know... I had no idea how much separated isnt divorced until my own.
Now... Granted... There are many KINDS of separation.
Some are 'just' married people taking a year 'off' to sample/date/screw around/ NOT date but live on their own/ NOT date but not have to deal with person A going through treatments/counseling/rtc Al's getting their life put back together... With the intent of MAYBE getting back together if xyz is met.
Others are separation pending divorce (where I've been stuck for 7 months)
Others are court mandated 6-24 months of separation before you can file.
Others are legal separations
Others are avoiding the costs of divorce (mine is 17k and counting, and we haven't even gotten to mediation yet!).
Others are avoiding the religious issue.
Others person A is majorly elsewhere (different state or country).
I'm sure there are more kinds I'm forgetting.
Point being, though... My marriage is NOT going to reconcile. We ARE getting divorced. It's been 7 months. And I/we are a bloody mess. There is no way on EARTH I would start dating any time in the next few years, and damn straight, if/when I did? Those papers had better be final on my end AND theirs in nearly all cases (majorly elsewhere is one 'excuse'... Some people have been TRYING to divorce for years and years, but their spouse keeps ducking the issue by moving).
Am I judging others bases off myself? Yup. Do I usually try to avoid that? Double yep.
But it still stands. As a general rule: Separation to ME is as off limits (aka indication of 'crazy town'), as marriage is (indication of douchbaggery... Anyone who would cheat on their spouse with me is a gross disgusting oath breaker with no shred of honor).
Just my opinion. And as I said, totally biased, and I'm certainly not going to try and say EVERYONE should abide by my personal feelings on the subject. Just because it's right for Me doesn't mean it's right for everyone!