Should I Watch My Friend's Child

I think this is very fresh for you and I think you should give it a little time before making any decisions. Tell her honestly that emotionally this is hard for you right now and that if she's ok with it maybe you guys can talk about it in a couple of months. If she's been a friend for 15 years I'm sure she will totally understand. If she doesn't feel she can wait for an answer then tell her she needs to do what she needs to do for herself and her family and you'll understand if she needs to make other arrangments. Just don't leave her hanging. Tell her you'd like some time to heal and decide emotionally what will be best for you and you'll tell her on a specific date what your plans will be. I can't imagine anyone not understanding that. You may feel differently and perhaps may even get pg again sooner then you expect.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

S.,
I am so sorry. Do you know, I had a friend that told me that when I was pregnant, she was so jealous - She already has three and is probably done but wants more. I never understood that emotion until... I, like you, had a miscarriage and one week later had to attend a birthday party with a bunch of pregnant mommies. I couldn't handle it and went to the car to cry. My due date would have been July 4th and nowadays, when I hear of our friends having babies, I still get that pang, but it's so much better than it was back in February. I'm sure everyone is different, but I think you will feel differently in a few months. Good luck to you.

You have to do what is best for you and the child, if you don't feel that you can give the child what they need because of your feelings you shouldn't watch the child and that would be best for both of you. Hopefully your friend can understand your position.

I too had a miscarriage in Sept. and at the same time there were 3 women who were also pregnant at work and we would all have been due at the same time and one of them was my boss. It hurt like heck to see them go through the pregnancies and have the babies, and it still hurts occassionally but I am happy for them at the same time. It just takes some time. Good luck to you in whatever you decide to do.

I agree 100% with Kristy. It's too recent to make a good decision. I had my second miscarriage when one of my CLOSE friends was pregnant. Our kids would have been 4 weeks apart. My little girl would have been 3 this past February. My first angel would have been 4 this upcoming October. I still know that and think about it.

It was hard to watch my friend be pregnant and it hurt so much. I was lucky enough to get pregnant a couple months later and our kids ended up being 3 months apart (my son is 3 this June).

So, just let everything settle and again - I agree with Kristy.

I'm so truly sorry for your loss.

Best to you.

T.