Trying After a Miscarriage.

I have a friend that recently had a miscarriage and she tried again right away and is now 15 weeks pregnant. You just never know. Sometimes women have several miscarriages before getting that one pregnancy that is meant to be. Good luck to you!

I had a miscarriage on December 11, 2005, and my son was born on November 18, 2006. We were not trying per se, but we were blessed nonetheless!
The hardest part is the emotional part. But there are so many of us who have been there. Let us know how you're doing, and if there is anything you need help with! We may be able to give you some support.

My doctor wanted us to wait 3 or 4 months before trying again to give my body time to recover. I was a bit farther along, though.
My miscarriages were between my first two sons, and while it is still sad sometimes, whenever I look at my second son (who wouldn't be here, had it not been for the miscarriages), I know that God knew what He was doing.

Hi M.,

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. It is a tough thing to go through. Only time will heal. Remember if God takes you to it, he will get you through it.

I've had one miscarriage and one ectopic pregnancy. I had the miscarriage about 5 years ago. My doctor told me to wait about 3 months to get my HCG levels back to zero and so it would also give me a couple of months to get my periods back on track. She told me that the sooner you get pregnant after having a miscarriage, the better of a chance you have to having another miscarriage. So I waited about 6 months. I got pregnant again and then I found out that it was an ectopic pregnancy. I had to get a D&C and that verified an ectopic. After the D&C, my doc told me to wait for another 3 or 4 months before trying again. We waited a little longer because we didn't know if we were emotionally ready for another heartbreak. I got pregnant again in July of 2004 and I successfully had my healthy baby boy in March of 2005. I got pregnant again in August of 2006 and had my second healthy baby boy in May of 2007.

So please keep in mind that just because you've had one miscarriage doesn't mean you won't be able to have children. I had those thoughts going through my head. We were talking about adoption because we just didn't know if we could handle another loss. I read a study that 60% of women will have one miscarriage in their reproductive years. The study also said that it is on the rare side to have two or more miscarriages in a row...I mean it does happen but it's rare.

Whatever you decide to do, just make sure you and your husband are emotionally ready. That would be the best advice anyone can give you. I also found it easier not to tell anyone I was pregnant with the 3rd pregnancy until after I was at least 12 weeks pregnant. That way if something did happen to that pregnancy, I wouldn't have to tell people over and over about my loss and put myslef through it all over again. I had to do that with my first two pregnancies and it was really rough on both me and my husband.

Best of Luck & God Bless!
K.

I miscarried at 11 1/2 weeks and my doctor said to wait three months, but she was more of an old-style doctor that I wasn't really happy with anyways. I changed doctors to Dr. Renee Stein in St. Louis and she told me that once I had a normal period I could start trying again which was only a couple weeks after my miscarriage. I became pregnant when I tried that first time and have had four healthy pregnancies and children since. I don't know if you had a d & c or not. I did and was told that my uterine lining was very fresh and clean, so therefore very accepting of a fertilized egg, which made it easier to get pregnant right away. For me, this was very healing emotionally. We had tried for five months to get pregnant in the first place and I thought I was almost through the first trimester and into the "safe zone" so to speak when I miscarried. To become pregnant so quickly after my miscarriage helped me to recover emotionally and think positively about my new pregnancy and first child.

Also, Dr. Stein was really great about getting me bloodwork from the start and an ultrasound at six weeks to be sure that everything was going okay so that I wasn't again surprised at 11 or 12 weeks with another miscarriage. You may want to ask your doctor for the same. It helps to know that everything is going okay, especially when you are shaken by having just miscarried. Good luck to you!

We had a miscarriage between our son and daughter, they told us when I had the miscarriage that there was no sign that I was even pregnant and that would could also try right away. We waiting to make sure there wasn't anything wrong w me as far as being sore, depression or anything. I have always said there is a reason for everything and they must have been a good reason that we lost the baby. Or we wouldn't have our daughter now. I had a threating miscarriage at 3 months with our son and they put me on bed rest, so I did that for awhile but couldn't stand it anymore. I decided like you said it is in God's hands and if I miscarriage there is a reason. So I did what I wanted and he came out strong as could be.

well, supposedly you are more fertile just after giving birth, so maybe it's the same after a miscarriage. just make sure you are emotionally ready.

I also miscarried at about six weeks last November and got pregnant in February. I am 16 weeks now and doing well. Best of luck.

I would say wait atleast 3 or 4 period cycles before trying again.

I miscarried at 15 weeks and we tried about 3 months after although it took me over a year to get pregnant again but we did finally have another baby. We had 2 healthy babies before the miscarriage that were 3 years apart and the 3rd one would have been 3 years from the 2nd one as well but miscarried and our youngest is 5 years younger than our 2nd but they all get along very well and we are blessed with 3 healthy wonderful kids and so glad I didn't give up to have that 3rd one.

We tried two weeks after my miscarriage period ended and I got pregnant! Apparently, you are very fertile after a miscarriage. I had to hurry because miscarrying made me have a baby at 40 instead of 39. I handled the miscarriage okay, I guess it was because of my trust in God and that he knew what he was doing. My baby after miscarriage is now 15 months old! So if you didn't have to have a D&C (which at that early - you didn't) than you don't have to wait and it's okay. Good Luck to you & God Bless!
C.

I feel your pain in what you have gone through. I miscarried my first pregnancy at 10 weeks and it destroyed me. My husband and I, after talking it over with my doctor, decided to wait 3 month before trying again. He recommended 3 normal periods to let my body and emotions heal and we decided that it was a good option, especially since the expereince put a strain on our marriage. During that time I did not go back on birth control so we weren't technically trying but also not preventing. 3 months later we were pregnant and everything with the pregnancy went smoothly. However, we didn't tell people that we were poregnant until 12 weeks this time. Our daughter is now 2.5 years old and we are 11 weeks pregnant now and everyhting is going smoothly.

Try when you are ready. It is so scary. I was there3 years ago. I had a miscarriage in April and got pregnant in June.

I was told after my miscarriage,that I suddenly became a member of a club that you never knew existed and never wanted to be a part of. The pain gets better.

We planted a bush in honor of the baby we lost. My husband was very supportive. I did not lean on other people (I had no one close to me at the the time to lean on). We made it through and got to the other side. I now have a beautiful, energetic 2 year old who is the joy of my life. I think, a miscarriage helps you to appreciate how precious that little life is.

My doctor told me the quickest way to "get over" a miscarriage is to get pregnant again. I think he is right.

Good luck to you, and God Bless You

The day my baby that was miscarried was supposed to be born was the day I found out I was pregnant with my daughter...it will all work out as it should!!

I am sorry for your hardship.
I miscarried around the same time and got pregnant 2 weeks later. When I asked my doc what she thought about waiting she said I didnt need to wait. She said whenever I felt ready again.

M., I am so truely sorry for your loss. I've had 4 myself, but luckly I found an RE (reproductive endocrinologist) who performed surgery to cure my problem. (I'm not the norm.)

I talked to him about how long I should have waited after each miscarrage, he said as long as your HCG level is back down to 0 and you wait at least one cycle you should be fine. Hang in there. It doesn't matter "when" you miscarry, it's still terribly painful. Most who haven't exerienced it don't understand. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

I miscarried my first pregnancy at 7 weeks and I was pregnant with my beautiful little boy 4 weeks later. Good luck to you.

My doctor told me to wait until I had one cycle. I waited one cycle and got pregnant right away and gave birth to a very healthy little boy.
Good Luck.

I had a miscarrage 11 years ago and got pregnant within 3 months of the loss. I have a wonderful almost 11 year old and am glad to have such a great kid! God works in wonderful ways! I have been trying again for almost 4 1/2 years and it is still in Gods hands!

I had D/C after each miscarriage and I began trying right away. With each one (I had four) I was pregnant within the first month of trying. Getting pregnant was not hard for me. So I say go ahead. Since I believe that a soul is created at conception then I know that I have two children waiting to see me when I get to heaven. (The other two pregnancies were blighted ovums) Armed with this knowledge it helped me to heal and let go of the pain and disappointment that comes with a miscarriage. We really do have to trust God that he has everything in the palm of his hand and he will not let us fall. God has blessed me with five of the most extraordinary children on the face of this earth. I had my first one at 26 and my last one at 43 so be not discouraged and allow yourself to feel the hand of God in your life. God Bless R.

I was told to wait a few month to build back up my folic acid, as apparently that all went away with the miscarriage. So, just a thought maybe something to research.

Oh miscarriages are SO HARD! I miscarried at about 6 weeks 1 1/2 years ago and was so mad and frustrated. I also realized that it happens to the MAJORITY of women at some point...statistically it just happens. You can certainly try right away...I might wait for one normal cycle to be sure your uterine lining is healthy and then go for it! Take an omega 3 fatty acid supplement like Expecta if you are not already....good for pregnancy, you and baby.

GOOD LUCK!! you will get there very soon :)

I tried after a miscarriage that happened at 6 1/2 weeks. It actually took us almost a year to conceive again and that time I had a blighted ovum that miscarried at 10 1/2 weeks. Not to worry - a blighted ovum only happens to 1 in 200. Anyway, I had to have a D&C after the blighted ovum and we were told to wait three months before trying again...well after three months we were pregnant. I had the d&c on March 5, 2007 and my son was born on February 21, 2008. Don't give up hope and just keep trying!!

I have been told, to wait at least a month before trying again. Usually when you miscarry that early, there is a chromosomal abnormality. Nothing that you could have done would have changed the outcome. I hope that you conceive again soon and good luck.

I miscarried in October at 12 weeks and I was told to wait one cycle before trying to conceive again. We were so scared that one cycle was a very short time to wait for us. We were just told that conceiving again before your body has a chance to have a normal cycle would increase our chances of miscarrying again. Obviously by increasing your chances, they don't mean that you will for sure miscarry. But again, knowing how you feel, one cycle is a short time for a little more peace of mind.

M.,
Most doctors advise that you should wait until you have had at least one normal period after your miscarriage. But the best advice I can give you is to ask your OB what he recommends for you.

You've already realized the absolute, 100% best solution to it all and that is knowing God has things under control. I lost my baby at 11 weeks and my faith, family, and friends are the only thing that got me through. Without knowing that God has a plan and a purpose, it would all seem so meaningless.
I'm so sorry for your loss and I will pray for God to bless you with a baby once again. Take comfort in knowing you already have a perfect baby in heaven waiting for you.
M. Day
Heaven Born
Comforting Moms, Honoring Babies
www.heavenborn.com