Sexual Behavior at 6 Years Old?!?!?!?!?

There was another question like this a while back, and in that case as well it was a mom who had never previously posted a question or an answer. Another mom pointed out that it was a little iffy, and it made me think. I'm not saying that this question is fake, but it does seem a little suspicious.

edited to add: how many 4 year olds do you know who can whistle?

Is it possible your son was molested or abused?

This is, to me, outside the realm of what is normal.

DO NOT leave him unsupervised with other children... what if those kids goes home and tells their parents what your son did... and what 'games' they played while at your home???? THIS is a problem... and they would have every right... to keep their kids away from your son, too. OR to heavily question you about it and WHY they were unsupervised doing this in your home, in his room, in his bedroom etc.
AND what if he acts out this way... at other people's homes???

GOOD you are taking him to a child Psychologist.

Next: who is your son around... besides you? Who else, takes care of him, who else does he spend time with etc.?

all the best,
Susan

Oh, my! I don't think this is normal at all! I understand some curiosity, but the whole friend's touching, etc., is not normal. I really hate to even suggest this, but is it possible your little guy has had someone else 'teach' him this behavior? Praying all goes well with you/him and this is just something he may have seen on tv :(

HI N., my first reaction was either something happened to your son or he was exposed to something like a sexual movie, something like that. You are doing the best thing for him by getting him to talk to a professional now that you have noticed his behavior. What was your reaction when you caught him with the kids in his room? I'm assuming you have had the "inappropriate touching" speech with him, doesn't hurt to reiterate it. I wish you and your son luck and as a mom to a kid who goes to therapy, nothing will be solved in one session but always feel free to ask questions, also be prepared to have him talk to the therapist alone, he might not open up with you in the room.

I hate to ask this question but is it possible that your son has been abused? Children with overtly sexual behavior and forceful behavior have possibly been victims themselves.

My best advice until you are able to see the doctor is not to allow your son to be alone with other children.

And I took my son to the gyn with me because there was no one else to watch him and even with his level of attentiveness to things he didn't react in any way except to ask about the diagrams and such. So don't worry that it was something you did!

I have sons and they never had this behavior. What has your son seen? has anyone abused him? Please find out. Your doing the right thing getting him help.

N., you are going to have many moms who tell you this is normal. Sex offenders, pedifiles, starts somewhere, and it is usually from undealth with behaviors from childhood. John Gardner, Joran Vandersloot and issues long before adult hood. make sure then kids play where you can see them. Taking him to OB/GYN office probably was not a good idea. J.

N. you are obviously very concerned about the wellbeing of your son and are doing the right thing in taking the next step by seeing a therapist. Ignore the other poster regarding this being fake. I hope she never has to post something on this topic in the future or she would know how distraught one can feel when trying to do good for their children. Good luck and I am here if you need me.

Hmm, some sex play is normal, but your son seems a little overly sexualized. Any idea where this could have come from?

Regarding one comment below -- this behavior did NOT come from seeing a drawing of a vagina at your OBGYN's office. That's a ridiculous assertion. So don't worry about taking him there. However, it may have come from something else he was exposed to, as others have suggested.

Have you asked him, if he has seen a movie, or other mature material? Do you know everyone he comes into contact with? To what extent, have you talked to him about this? 9I only ask, because you didn't mention it.) I would get to the bottom of it now and figure out where this behavior has come from. He saw it somewhere. I'm not going to automatically say "he was abused", because sex is everywhere in our society. It's very likely he saw a movie, or witnessed this inappropriate behavior. You need to talk to him NOW!!! And...cut out of your life whoever exposed your son to this!

I think it's a good idea to take you son to a psychologist. However when it comes to subject as these, creative therapy is a much better and not such a scary solution. http://www.creativetherapyarizona.com/
I don't know the place to the link, but posted it more, so to give you an idea. It's good you have bells ringing. Some sexual behavior at the age of six is normal, but there should be boundaries. Especially the 'game' where his friend needs to touch his pee pee and if he doesn't, there I see a possible sign.When controlling somebody to performs certain acts, that makes me think there might be more to it, but then again, sometimes there is false alarm. Asking him if someone ever did something will always be answered with a 'no', as abusers will tell kids there will be consequences if they will tell anyone. We as parents aren't skilled enough ad too emotionally attached to our kids to even handle a confession. ( I would not be in for myself would I find out who it was) I have studied the subject when I became a social worker. I have been sexually abused myself and never received help as a child and applaud you as a mom for having such a keen eye. Creative therapy makes the child be in a playroom and do all there favorite activities, where a therapist will observe a few time an interject questions, give a twist to a game/play, so to get answers. It's the perfect way and not scary at all as it get approached into the world of a child.

I wish yu all the best.

I would really make sure that he has not been sexually abused. What he is doing sounds like that of an abused child. Please make sure that professionals rule this out. He may be too embarrased/afraid to tell you. Good luck.

PS. In the meantime....please make sure that he does not do this to other children again. (making them touch him) If you have to keep him away from other kids until he gets help... do it.

Oh dear. When I read about him whistling at a picture of the outside of a vagina in the doctor's office, I didn't think too much about getting worried over that. I know one kid who drools over the bra and panty ads in the Sunday newspaper, but I think part of it is because his parents would never DARE let him see them in their underwear.
I think what you're describing goes a little bit further than that. A LOT further.
He's obviously seen something or been exposed to something....maybe even by another child. This goes beyond normal body curiosity. "If you don't touch it once today, you have to do it twice next time".
Why would a child just come up with something like that?
There has to be a reason and I'm not saying it's YOU. Like I said, it could have even been another child who had things done to them and perpetuated it so they wouldn't be the only ones or get the idea that little kids bodies can be used like that.
Get him in to see a therapist and who specializes in this kind of thing and keep him away from other children unless they are supervised at all times. NEVER out of your sight, even for a minute.
Regardless of why he's acting out this way, it has to stop right now.

Hang in there. Take some deep breaths and make sure you have a therapist to help you deal with this for yourself as well.

You need professional guidance with how to deal with this.

This behavior sounds very disturbing. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this at such a young age. My first reaction was he learned this behavior from someone. My second was he's molesting his friends and i wouldn't leave him alone with anyone. If it was my child that your child told to touch him i would totally freak out and never let my child around yours or your family again. I don't mean to sound mean, but in the world today you really have to watch out for your kids. I'd call his ped, which you prob did. They refered you to psychologist. I hope they can help you.