Seeking Moms in Dayton Ohio

I have a 16 year old step daughter that I have been around for 14 years of her life. We had problems when she was 8 ish. She said she hated to visit because of me and I was too strict. The counselor said her frustractions was just the icing on the cake. There had to be underlying problems to cause such anger and frustration. When we asked how long it took to except me she said it takes 7 x's the years of their age you became a couple before they actuall respect you being a constant figure or authority it their lives. I am not too sure about all that because we still have hard visitations. I have always given her the idea no matter what she does it will not be the breaking point of our marriage. We have always felt it was the negativity they tell you not to have towards your ex that has been in her ear at home.

Good Luck!

Hether,

Be patient it will happen, don't push it and she will just flip all of a sudden.. as long as he is good to you and her, she will see it.

J.

I know exactly how you feel. I have a 10 year old who is starting to open up to my husband. It really just takes awhile for her to start to trust him, being that she has been hurt by the other men that was in her life. You just got to be patient with her, because I understand how she feels. My 10 year old was the same way. Just when they start to trust another father figure in their life they leave. But my husband just continues to love on her even when she tried to push him away. Your daughter will come around. Trust me , I know. E-mail me anytime if you need more advice. I live in Dayton. And my husband and I also have a cleaning business. Take care and God bless you.

Hi H. my name is S. I'm 35 and a stay at home mom of a son 9 months and 2 stedkids 14 yr old stepdaughter and 10 yr old stepson. I live in Dayton and have been married for 6 yrs. Anyway to help with your problem. My advise comes from my experience growing up, for the longest time I had my mom to myself besides the few boyfriends she had whom I cared about. Then my mom met who would become my stepfather, I was 13 my brother was 7. We wanted nothing to do with him, we wouldn't listen to him and sorry to say but it took along time for us to like him. It was easier for my brother being younger. I think you just need to give her space and don't try to force the relationship it will happen, it took me a few years once I realized this guy wasn't going to leave. My parents have been together for 22 years now. And we get along as if he is my "dad" I never had a relationship with my bioligical father. Hope this helps. Let me know how things go.