HI C.. Sorry for your loss. I have had 2 miscarriages. 1 in 2001 which I didn't know about I had taken 3 home pregnancy tests EPT and then at the dr's office (may have been because I had a 2 shot series Hep C for a trip to Thailand). I thought I started my period while at a friend's house (I've had irregular periods that year.) and then I lost it in the toilet unknowingly.
Anyway, then in 2006, I was pg, and then found out my son from my 2nd pregnancy, had just gotten the dx of autism, I lost that baby too. We tried again later that year, and had my 4th pregnancy another boy.
If you think you're still pregnant or either case, I wouldn't wait a week and a half to see the dr. I'd go see the dr now. Demand it. Tell them you want an ultrasound. You might still be pregnant, and need progesterone pills right away in order to "KEEP" the baby.
I found that out after I had my 2nd miscarriage. And this is what "SAVED" my 2nd baby boy because I also spotted with that one on the verge of almost losing him when I was in another state visiting for xmas. I am blessed for both of them.
In regards to your husband, my husband was the same way, that they don't know how to communicate/feel/no emotion whatsoever. I still go thru this everyday. I have an autistic son who's high functioning, yet I take care of him, all the paperwork, dr appts, everything. My husband helps with bathing, clothing, brushing,feeding, playing. Since my 5 year old can now carry a conversation and is potty trained, and helps me with his 2 year old brother, it has been much easier. My husband feels stressed too. Give yours sometime and tell him to talk about his feelings.
Good luck!