I can totally relate to your situation! I have a son who is 4, and a daughter who just turned 1. It is a struggle daily to get my son to listen, bahave, and not to harm his sister. He never listens to his dad, then he plays favorites to me and completely avoids his father. Big time momas boy! I make it a point when he starts crying for anything period for him to ask politely and stop the fit before i take into consideration of the request. It has helped, he knows now not to cry for anything but he still does it daily. Lately its been about twice a month that he has big outbursts and I can not control him. 2 weeks ago he cried for 4 hours over a sippy cup of juice. 4 time outs, spanking and me yelling at the top of my lungs at him didnt help. I eventually just let him cry it out then he passed out, 4 hour nap later he woke up a completely different kid. I noticed the one thing that works well, is putting him in time out. But not letting him out untill hes done with his fit (could take 5 minutes, could take 40). No crying, no stomping, and standing in the cornor where he can't see what is going on with everyone. This has helped somewhat, but its still stress full. I think its a battle of jealousy, and who gets moms attention. He's old enuff to be told his actions are not appropriate and he needs to be a big brother. Make him feel special to a new baby sister in the family, try to include him in the cuddling that you do with the baby too. I give both my children the 1 on 1 time, even if they have to stay up later to get it. Hang in there, it gets better I promise. Just be sure to choose your battles, and let him know that you are the one in charge. I will keep up with reading this posting, cause im curious to see everyones responce.