J.Y.
Hi! Welcome to the area!
I see Dr. Theresa Homan at Fox Valley Women's and Children's Health Partners in St. Charles (rt.64 and Peck Rd). She sounds exactly what you are looking for! She is awesome, very friendly, down to earth, realistic, she definitely listens (after having my first daughter, who was very big...she listened to my concerns with my second daughter and agreed to deliver early!). She is open to alternative treatments, in fact, she was the one who referred me to my first chiropractor when I was pregnant the first time. It's relatively easy to get appointments with her and if not they have 3 NP's that are all great. There are a few other women OB/Gyn's at that practice who are all very capable, though I only have personal experience with Homan and Dr. Mills (female).
Another awesome thing about their practice is that they also have pediatricians there now! I believe one is a female and the other is male (very well known in the area).
The building they are in is brand new, though they are an experienced practice. Check out their website:
http://www.fvwchp.com/main/