A.T.
Love the jigglers cake idea, I'm sure your daughter would love that. www.ediblearrangements is wonderful because they have a kids collection of edibles and they feature sponge bob, elmo and have fruit. www.nutrilicious.com/ if you'd like to explore that option, has lactose free, vegan, gluten free cakes. If she is not bothered by the cake issue M., you shouldn't be either. I'm sure your guests have come to know not to expect cake when they come to her parties and that's not all bad. Fruit is healthier and if it really bothers you, buy small cake for those who would love to endulge and simply ask.....cake or fruit? Your daughter won't want the cake and would prefer the fruit anyway. Make it fun....have your daughter get 2 birthday cakes...one made of fruit and the other chocolate mousse. She can blow out double candles.
And again, remember, if your daughter has no issue with the cake, and what it's made of, you shouldn't either.