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Don't worry about wanting to be sexy. I only have 1 kid and would like more, but don't want to gain the weight. So having a another kid is a big decision for me. I had major surgery that caused me to loose 14 pounds. That weight loss put me at my pre-baby weight. I love it. I fit into clothes I never thought I would wear again. Don't get me wrong I love my son and he is very important, but my husband and our marriage is just as important. We found that if we don't pay attention to each other than our marriage is not going to last. Both of us will seek the attention else where. I don't want that. I want him to think I am sexy not the 19 year pre-baby blond next to me. So I think you can be sexy and have kids. Keep being a sexy mom, if you are happy then you are probably being a better mother. I just want to add that your husband does not want to come home from deployment and see that his wife does not take care of herself. My husband tells me all the time about the guys who are upset that their wife is gaining weight and does not take care of themselves anymore. So if you think your husband doesn't care, I am sure he is telling his friends how much he does. I am with you. Being sexy and a good mom is so much better.