P.P.
My almost 5 year old son hasn't said the "h" word yet, but he has told me that I'm a "bad momma" and a "mean momma." I calmly tell him that I understand he's angry at me, but that even when he's mad, I still love him and its okay to be angry. I have also told him that there are some things that he does that I don't like and that make me mad, but I still love him even when I'm mad at what he did. I think its important to point out to kids that its not the person they hate, but whatever action has been done to upset them.
Don't take it personal. And remember, you still have the teenager years to look forward to. :-)