Your husband got a prescription but he won't tell you what it's for? Did you find a pill bottle or what? He told you he got one? Is he trying to make you jealous? You can call the doctor and ask them to send you a HIPAA privacy form for your husband to fill out giving them permission to discuss your husband's medical history, precscriptions, etc with you. Ask him to sign it. If he won't, then tell him you will be going to the doctor to get yourself tested since you don't know what he's been up to. Maybe he asked for some viagra or something...you never know, but he shouldn't be afraid to tell you what the Rx was for. After all, you ARE married.
My husband worked with a woman who he'd known before we were married and we were at a party once. She and I were friends, but she got a few drinks in her and sat on his lap and said, "Santa, I want a husband for Christmas." She didn't mean MY husband...she was just a little tipsy....a single mom struggling on her own. She was really apologetic after the booze wore off. I felt a little uncomfortable about it, but my husband didn't cause a scene by embarrassing her any further.
Now...at your bbq, if the same woman is flirting with your husband, she may not be able to hold her alcohol, she may just want to feel like someone is paying attention to her. Who knows? Your husband can be nice and still deflect her attentions.
You need to have a talk with your husband about it though.
My husband asked me and the children to get dressed up for dinner one night. He took us to a very, very nice restaurant. We were dressed so nicely, the hostess asked us what the occasion was.
We were just out for dinner.
We had a young waitress who was very pretty, but my husband could not take his eyes off her the entire time. We spoke to him and he didn't hear us. He couldn't even find his mouth with his fork he was staring at her so much. People were complimenting me on how I looked and what well behaved children we had and he heard none of it. It was as though we weren't even there.
Rude, rude, rude.
To be honest, I think my husband kept staring at her because he expected her to stare back at him....as if he was the hottest man in the room. As if surely, she wouldn't be able to take her eyes off of him either.
Whahhhhh for him.
He had the nerve to say, when we left, that she was rude to us and he would never take us there again.
I was fine with that after he acted like such and insecure jerk.
It was embarrassing.
You can't control what some other woman or women may do when they get around your husband, but he surely can control how he plays into it.
If he needs his ego stroked that badly, it has nothing to do with you.
My husband really expected women to fawn all over him and when they didn't, he'd get pissy and grouchy. Why? He had a perfectly lovely wife.
It's hard to say what's going on with your husband. They can have such fragile egos. But I would tell him you don't appreciate his attentions towards other women in front of you.
If he's insecure and so is that other woman, it's a recipe for disaster with you stuck in the middle feeling embarrassed.
Again, honestly, I would get a HIPAA form from the doctor and tell your husband he's going to sign it so that his prescriptions can't be kept secret from you. And, also, that gives you the right to call and have prescriptions refilled for him if he needs your help.
Feign concern if nothing else, but get to the bottom of the prescription thing.
Is he sleeping with you less? Is he sleeping with you more? By sleeping I mean sex.
This truly could be a case of ego stroking and your husband needing to feel desirable to other women in which case it's an insecurity issue. But, you still have to deal with the fact that his ego being "stroked" in front of you is hurtful and disrespectful. And he shouldn't do it.
I have a friend who threw a New Year's Eve party. I've known these people like family for many years. I was the only single woman there and her husband asked me to dance with him. So, I did. My friend had no problem with it whatsoever, but she had a couple of friends there who tried to turn it into something it wasn't. They were telling her to watch her back because I was after her man and she should be really pissed and her husband had no right to disrespect her like that. He and I were friends before they got married and we danced right in front of everyone so there was no sneakiness about it. For God's sake, I was the maid of honor at her wedding. I've taken care of her house and animals when they go out of town. I've never been after her man. That scenario is a little different, but my point is, things can be made out of something that isn't there.
You're not being stupid at all. However, your husband does have some explaining to do.
I wish you the best and will look for your other responses.
Hang in there.