"Rebooting" MY Way of Thinking

I read "Codependent No More" by Melodie Beattie. It really helped me to reboot my way of thinking and being.

I also learned about Bowen Family Systems Theory, which helped me to thoughfully examine just why I am the way I am, based upon how I was raised.

I now recognize unhealthy ways of being, can identify where they are coming from, and can fix them. I'm not perfect by any means, but this has helped me immeasureably.

So that might be a good place to start.

Best to you!

C. Lee

Good question, and good epiphany. Sorry your family didn't support your enthusiasm.

The person you were as a kid is the real you, and it's still there. I am old enough now to see that we go through phases in life, and we can be very different people through each of those phases.

Go ahead and embrace your enthusiasm! It's a great quality, and I promise you it's still there.

Questioning my thoughts and beliefs is the way that I am now healing my life and setting myself free from the past. One tool I use a lot is The Work by Byron Katie (www.thework.com) It is the best system I have found.

I also "puke on paper" so that my thoughts don't just run amok in my head any more. I pour all my negative thoughts on paper and allow them to spew out fully. Then I am able to see them more clearly and question them more deeply.

I think a great deal of evolving and reaching our full potential involves silencing those negative little "sound bites"that can replay over & over in our heads.. Whether from parents, peers, teachers, etc.
I think you're on the right track!!!

I'm dealing with some of this, too. It's hard to get over ideas that have been planted into your brain, over and over again.

I had a little bit of help with digging up those ideas. Instead of trying to forget them, I wrote them on a piece of paper - several negative experiences that have been making me feel inferior - and put the paper in the sink and lit it on fire. It was sort of a symbolic way for me to try to let them go. I'm still holding on to some things, but it felt really good to see myself be in charge of those thoughts, instead of those thoughts being in charge of me.

Believe it or not, Mamapedia bullies help reboot my thoughts. I am able to HEAR from strangers what others around me cannot say. Whew! Yes, I actually have rebooted from some of the negativity...