Quick Question

Yes...I think you should definitely have a baby shower!!! You deserve to celebrate the birth of each child!

I agree! Throw a shower! It's not like he's been around all that long, and not to mention the 3-month mark seems to be when things settle a little and you may actually enjoy the shower! Congratulations!

Well you obviously don't throw a shower for yourself but if you have a friend to host, any time is a good time time to celebrate your new addition. Some moms wait due to cold season and to let the baby settle in. I personally have always been a fan of showers after the baby has arrived so the guests get teh added pleasure of seeing the recipient of their gifts! Have a great time with it!

You could do a baby welcoming bbq? Then everyone could still get together and they could all see your new baby! Good luck!
M.

J.,

Hello, I am a stay at home mom as well. I am so sorry to hear of your loss (stillborn) I am pregnant now with my second child, Due in July. My husband and I found out in Feburary that he/she has a kidney disease called MultiCystic Kidney Disease. This disease not only affects the kidneys, but also the heart and lungs as well. The 3 well known specialists I have seen have all given our baby a 0% chance of survival after delivery. We have chosen to trust in the Lord, and continue our pregnancy (after being advised over and over again to abort our child), and we want to love our baby while we have him/her. We were told he/she is expected to make it to term, but die within 10min-2 hours after delivery. This has been a very difficult pregnancy!! But in responce to your question...especialy after loosing your child....PARTY HARTY girl!! Who cares what anyone else thinks! Celebrate the joy, and miracle of a healthy and happy child. Congratulations! My email address is: ____@____.com if you ever want to chat. Just one question for you...Does the pain of your loss ever go away? I have recieved information on the Sidney Center in Eugene. They are a support organization for woman and families who have lost a baby due to miscarriage, infant death, and stillborn. They have some support groups, and other practical means of support as well. You can find them online at: www.sidneycenter.org And their phone number is: ###-###-####
Again, Congratulations, and Have a GREAT PARTY!! :) :) :)

I also lost a baby and had 3 more after her. With my first one after her we were out of the country so people were off the hook (a few people still sent gifts but there was no party). But with my little boy (#3- 2nd after, first boy) I really wanted one, so my mom and cousin threw me one. With #4 (3rd after), I wanted to celebrate her just as much- but my kids were all pretty close in age so they had just been to a shower for me less than 2 years before. SO instead we had a "welcome baby" party and didn't call it a "shower". It made people a lot more comfortable, and when it's just a party you're a mom throwing it for your baby, when it's a shower you're throwing it for yourself. I'm much more comfortable throwing a party for my child than for myself. Have fun!

I don't see why not. I think you should let your best friend know and ask her to throw the shower. I just dont think its right for someone to have to throw their own shower. This day and age lots of people are waiting until after the birth, and this gives people a better idea of exactly what you are still needing!! :)

Yes you should have one. Baby showers are a lot of fun. I don't think it matters if your son is 3mos. old. I had a baby shower for my daughter after she was born because I didn't know what the sex of the baby was going to be. So we waited til after because I didn't want to get a bunch of boy clothes or anything.

Betsy

I would say since you've had two showers already and noone has offered to have another one, it might be wise to just let it pass. They say you only should have a shower for your first, but I'm ok with having more if someone offers. I don't think you should take the initiative to have one yourself though.

Absolutely! Every little baby deserves his/her own shower. I have 2 boys and one girl on the way and have had a shower for each. I love the idea of having the shower afterwords also so people can meet your little one. I say have the party! :)

Greetings, J..

I'm very sorry for your loss (and for the difficulty an earlier responder is going through right now). I think that it is a very good idea to have the baby shower following the birth of the child, and that most people will be very willing to shower the new baby with gifts even if he/she has been preceded by siblings. As everyone else will state, just make sure you don't throw the party for yourself (have a friend or family member do it). And be sure to try and schedule it when your son will be in a good mood and in quiet alert state so everyone has a great time.

Congratulations on your growing family and I hope you have a really fun time.

My sisters and friends threw a shower for me with each of my 3 kids. All of my family and friends had showers with each birth as well. After my first 2 kids were born, my mother-in-law threw a shower so that my old friends and her co-workers could see the baby (they live 2 hours away). I think it is a great idea!! Celebrate the new little life in your home!!!

If someone is willing to throw one for you, heck yeah, I would! At my 20 wk ultrasound, my little one wasn't cooperative, and I didn't want to receive all yellow! I waited until after she was born, and I got lots of cute girly stuff! She was about 6 wks when I had mine, and it was lots of fun.
I didn't have one for my second one because I wasn't sure about the whole etiquette thing. Mine were only 19 mos apart and I wasn't sure if people would want to bring me more gifts. Now that I am on Mamasource, I see that most moms say go for it. If I have another I will definately want another shower. It's great to get together with family and friends! Everyone got to hold her! What a great thing! Go for it, and have lots of fun! :)

K.

I did my own baby shower.I don't see anything wrong with it if you have somthing to shere who better to shere it with (you'r friends)I say yes you should you have alot to be happy about and everyone probably knows you will because you did this with you'r daughter.What is a baby shower with out babys.you have 2 kids so have some fun.

T.

i think definitely! especially since its a different sex than the first one. i don't know why they say you can only have one shower. thats just dumb! i think showers are a way of celebrating that child, so each one should have one! have fun! and i'm so sorry about your loss. i can't even imagine. ((hugs)))

I would say that everyone loves to celebrate and especially a new baby. I would mention on the invite that you have registered at such and such place for items needed, but that gifts aren't necessary. That way people won't feel obligated to buy a gift. You also might want to say that this is a welcome and see baby shower.

I say go for it. It is a great way to introduce him to friends you haven't seen for a while and give your friends a chance to help out and socialize.

I hope you decide to do one and that it goes well. God bless.

I think that it would be a lovely idea to have a shower for your well deserving little one! I have heard of many women who have had their baby shower after the baby was born. I honestly think it's better this way. This way not only do you get to have all your loved ones with you for the party, you get to share your little one with everyone! It's alot more fun! I wish you all the best and God bless you and your family! =]

I grew up in a different culture where it's bad luck to have things like the babay carriage (pram/stroller) in the house until after the babay has arrived, so I was very uncomfortable with the whole babayshower idea. What I did was have (well my mother-in-law had) a welcome to the world/meet the baby party. They all loved that the baby was here to hold and cuddle. So go for it :-)

Maybe not a baby shower, but why not a welcome party. Have a Welcome party for your son, I know its been three months, but invite people you dont get to see a lot, as well as friends and family and they will come and love to party with you and your newborn.

Why don't you throw a "meet the baby" party? I don't think it would be inappropriate at all, and in your situation, I'm sure all of your friends and family would totally understand.

I think it'd be perfectly wonderful to have a little "welcome party"...

I wouldn't necessarily register for gifts, because I think that is usually the objection people have to the idea of "another shower", but maybe if someone asks you for a gift idea, let them know something you still need for your son.

I think people would love to come and "officially meet" your new son. A gathering is usually fun, especially, like you said, if it is the kind of thing you enjoy planning, to do it yourself!!