Problems with Toddler and Due with the Second Child Tomorrow!!

P., Sorry you are having such problems now when you need your sleep now more than ever. It may be due to the fact that he senses your Husband being more focused on you than him as the due date is getting closer. He may be worried about how things are really going to be when baby gets here. I was faced with very similar situation. I didn't have sonogram and did not know sex of child but we decided to let him name the baby and as soon as he came up with a boy's name to name his new brother then he was happy & no name for a girl, because he just knew he was having a brother (he did get a brother) His Dad gave him more attention also and even more when Baby got home. The name he came up with? Scott. But giving him some say so over the entire having a baby thing, helped the most. Being in their 2's doesn't help things at all. Hope all goes well during labor - you will be in my prayers.

Just a guess, but I bet he's picking up on your anxiety. I suggest keeping him busy and excited about going to...(fill in the blank) while you're away. I know it sounds impossible, but try to keep your routine feeling as normal as possible and good luck with your delivery!
C. S.

Yes, I know it is exciting time and so much going on.
They can snese somethings are different, and if you been
talking about the baby or getting ready for baby he may be feeliong left out.

My son was 1 1/2 when we had our daughter. We includded him
in things, and brought him to the hospital so he could see his new little sister.

My son was a Daddy boy too but then started coming to Mommy.
If they do just embrace it, and if he wants to cuddle do, sometimes he will come up to me and want a kiss then he will go back to playing. They want to feel connected.
I told him to be nice to sissy, and he gives her akiss on her head. Now thye are 3 1/2 and she is turniong 2. At first its alot of work, but since she was 1 they have played so good together. Even though one boy and 1 girl they are best of friends. They are almost like having twins. What 1 has the other wants too.

Any ways give him some time for him and let him know you love him. The 1st yr we tried to take our son to the park so he could have fun and know it just wasn't baby. But include him and he will be ok.

Good luck and best wishes !

P.,
Sorry I don't have any great advice to give you - but saw your post just now and was just like .......awl!!!!!! Your little guy must be sensing that baby is coming - how interesting. Poor little guy must be intuitive that your attention is going to be diverted. I hope the delivery goes well....and many congrats to you and your DH.
K.

I am a mother of three my kids are about 2 1/2 years apart. There will be some jealousy which is what it sounds like you're experiencing right now, but it will pass. Just be sure to include him in as much as possible when the baby comes. My older kids favorite excuse not to do something is that they want to see me and their baby sister. Good Luck!!!

P.-
I have no words of advice for you, but wanted you to know that you are not alone. I have a son who turned two in December and had our second son 3 weeks ago. About a week before I had the baby, our 2 yr old started jumping out of his crib. So, we are still trying to keep him in his "big boy bed" at night. He wakes up several times a night now and we are at a total loss as far as what to do about it.
Good luck and I am looking forward to what the other moms have to say!

Hi P.,
I was in the same predicament! My oldest son was 18 months old when his brother was born. He started to get really clingy and whiny so I sat down with him and showed him sonogram pictures of the baby and let him feel my belly, sounds weird but when he understood he got really excited. We went to the store and he picked out a blue t-shire that we had embroidered with “I’m Carter’s BIG Brother” and he was really excited to wear it… he was actually excited for the day. When he arrived, my parents brought him up to the hospital where my husband presented him with his AVT that was a gift from the baby to him, he hugged on his baby brother and kissed him eagerly!

I don’t know if any of this helped the clinginess and crying, but it does help with the transition! Also, after we were home, dad took him to the park or someplace special (just the two of them) every day! If gave us ALL a break :-) He understand that he is the BIG Boy and his brother needs him to learn from, we have avoided most behavior issues (but not all)!

Good Luck!
E.

The little ones sometimes regress a little when a new sibling comes into the picture, or in your case about to come into the picture. I bet your son senses that everything is about to change and that he is not going to be the only star of the show. My daughter was just over three when my son was born and she went from drinking out of regular cups to insisting on having a sippy cup. She also had a few nightmares. What really helped us a lot was constantly explaining to her what it was going to be like when the baby came. We also made sure that we made her feel like our son was just as much her baby as ours. She likes "helping," and yes it does take longer when she does but it makes her feel included. We also have let her hold our son (with help of course) when ever she has asked. I also bought her a couple little books (she loves books) and took to the hospital with me. The first visit she made where I was in my room, I presented her with the books which I told her were a special gift from Mommy since I could not leave the hospital for a couple days. Finally, at home I made sure that she got my undivided attention whenever I could give it to her. When friends and family would come to see the new arrival, I lavished more attention on her. It has been 7 months since my son was born and it amazes me everyday of the special relationship between him and my daughter.

Good Luck and Congrats!!