Problems with 3Yr Old Teacher

I have no idea what you're trying to say! Please repost and be more clear.
"Today his teacher called saying that there something going on more because he says no and puts things inthe correct spot. Example glueing shapes in correct spot in lines and cleaning things up and putting them back to where they were and when does something goo praises himself and is first to want to show his work when hes. I just saw you 12hr ago face to face everything was fine now there not and he needs one on one. Theres a behavioral problem the school psych is going to watch him to tell you whats wrong." Doesn't make any sense.

You must be upset because I don't understand the story!! Can you try again? (or am I just slow?! :)
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so what you're saying is that the teacher feels he's a little OCD? A little autistic?

Am I heading in the right direction?

I think the real question would be: is he obsessive with his actions? Does he throw fits when things are not "right" in his mind? Is he able to relax if something's out of place?

Take 5 steps back & really think about what the teacher is saying. Yes, she's coming off as a jerk.....but maybe when you add it all up....maybe she's on to something.

I know this hit you hard, & you seem very upset....almost incoherent in your post. But the school has helped him, & you still need to applaud the fact that he's improved. Let the psychologist do her job & observe him....& then address the issues. Peace....

I would love to offer some help, but I don't know what the teacher is saying. Could you please explain again. One thing I can say is the school psychologist will be a neutral party and if he isnt doing anything wrong he/she will not find anything wrong with him. He or she may have some great ideas for you so you can continue to help him at home.

I am not seeing what she sees the problem is - because he says no, and then does something? Or is it because he's 3 and putting things in proper places? I have found through our road of my son being in early intervention and in early childhood special education different things start developing at different times - if you are seeing progress then that is fantastic! I would ask her what specifically she feels the issue is and the resources she suggests. I would also have a talk with her about communication - she shouldnt see you for weeks on end thinking there is an issue and then bring it up to you.

I'm not sure exactly what you're saying. But if I get the drift -- I will say watch the school system. The next thing ya know they're wanting to him on meds. Remember this is their job and they don't want to lose it. The school gets funded for these programs and so they have to find children to be in them wether they belong in them or not. I've seen it over and over again. I know some kids need it and are helped. But there is another side to this stuff that most people don't know about.

Hi S., we've had similar issues where everything is fine and then out of the blue we're ambushed with "behavior problems". I'd be interested to know if this teacher just went to an "educators conference" where they just learned about labeling kids as ADHD, ODD, etc. Either way go in with an open mind or you'll be doing battle with her an not helping your son. Just listen, as hard as it is don't defend his bahavior, listen, thank her for bringing it your attending and tell her you'd like time to think about everything she's said and consider your options. Come back to the boards or find an online behavior coach for advice anyone with the school is going to side with the teacher's viewpoint. Don't discuss how to address his behavior at home, they're great about telling you everything you are doing wrong, and about all the "approved" things they've tried with your child that just aren't working. (can you tell we just went through this).

Take him to a doctor and get a second opinion if what this teacher is telling you does not sound right.