Hi S..
He's by himself.
The other two are together. Ok. Let's take a moment and put ourselves within this situation.
You're with your husband.
He's all alone.
Kinda scary.
Not the room he's use too.
He's the oldest, yet still young.
So precious to come quietly in your room with pillow and blanket. Bless his little heart. I love it.
Going where he feels safe. You are precious not to make him leave.
He's not being defiant, just feeling safe.
Let the three of them stay in the room together for a while. Hopefully there's room.
Put all his toys, his clothes in the closet and his dresser in the "big boy" room.
Put the other dressers in there too if you need space in the room with the 3 of them.
He seems very considerate at such a young age.
Put him in charge of the other two. Teaching him to be gentle and kind to his younger siblings.
Helping them to bed and getting you if the 6 mo. needs attention (although, he'll probably be fast asleep)
Let him know that sense he's the oldest he gets to have a special room.
Let him help you decorate it.
Join him while he plays in there sometimes; reassuring him that some day soon he'll get to sleep in there .
Let the siblings play in there and tell them, where he can hear it, --This is big brother's room. You'll get your own too someday when you get older.
Ask daddy to be patient just a little longer. And [en]courage him too.
And oh boy, if daddy plays in there with him...what a treat!
He and daddy can camp out in there during their "father and son" time together.
You probably do this, but thought I'd mention it, nightlight and keeping the door open is a good thing.
Things will change.
Oh, I hope some of this will help you.
Kim~
ps being a mom of 4 --two yrs apart, I totally understand this
. All mine are in the same college now.
Guess what -- the girls roomed together for a year and a half (my oldest daughter got married but has one more semester)Both commuted the first 2 years.
My boys will room together now! freshman and sophomore and so looking forward to being roommates. Isn't that funny!
When my oldest got married that gave us an extra room. My second oldest (daughter) took
her room which allowed the boys (at that time 16 & 18) to have their own rooms. It took forever for my oldest son to move out and into that vacant room.
When at home they love having their own rooms, now. Allows them to freely release their own personalities in decorating and sleeping....but yet, both are excited about rooming together at college....go figure :-)