I wrote about 2 weeks ago about my son attending a preschool that he needed to be 85% potty trained... Well for the first 5 days he did perfect, no accidents at all. Although he is deathly afraid of their automatic toilets, sinks & dryers they have been very helpful by taking him to a smaller bathroom with manual everything. He I guess decided on his own that he is not going to poop on the potty. He tells the teachers either 30 seconds before or makes them find it on their own. At home I can see when he is needing to go but still refuses to tell me..He turned 3 at the end of January. The school has said that he has had accidents but they haven't really said much... Before I get that "talk" from them does anyone have any suggestions for me. He tells me he will try tomorrow everytime I talk to him about it, but he doesn't try much harder from the day before...
This is all still very new to him. I suggest that it would be most helpful to him if you'd stop focusing on it. Give him time to get used to it. When you ask him about it and teach him how to do it, etc. you're creating resistance in him. You want him to relax.
This site addresses "Poop Refusers" as my guy was and is a wealth of information that addresses fearful poopers among other problems: Your goal should be to help your son to poop on the potty before he starts holding it for longer lengths of time and develops encopresis.
I would stop focusing on it as it may be an attention getting thing. If the school hasn't said anything I wouldn't worry. They are used to accidents. I would clean him up without saying a word and then go back to why you are doing. My daughter went through the same thing and when she realized that she wasn't going to get any attention from M. or her teachers for it she stopped.
Well...I might not have a suggestion....but my great nephew who is 3 1/2 WILL NOT use public restrooms anymore because of the loud hand dryer...and automatic flush which is really loud...it would scare me too if i were 3. Good luck to your both.
He just turned 3! He can't truly understand "trying harder" from day to day. I can't believe that the kids in his class who just turned 3, especially the boys, don't have accidents. Try having him bare-bottomed at home, when appropriate, so he's more aware of the poop. The teachers will take care of it at school. My son was terribly afraid of public bathrooms at that age, too, because of the noise, and I got the terrific idea from a mamapedia M. to get him earmuffs to wear in the bathroom.
Good luck,
B.
