Potty Training Help! - Lone Tree,CO

Hi--
She might just be a little young emotionally for potty training. Some kids just do it later. Unless you are in a situation where she has to be potty trained for daycare, I would say just let her wear a pull up and she'll do it when she's ready. With my oldest we had diaper days and underwear days until he just decided that he was totally ready and did it himself. No struggles. No reward charts. He just did it when he was ready. Once he decided he was completely potty trained within the week. She won't go to kindergarten still wearing diapers. So if you can just give her time it would be easiest on everyone. However ,if she has to be potty trained I would try the reward chart or treat system, depending on what she's interested in.
J.

I do not know if you have tried a reward system with her. Used the potty training books, or something to make it exciting for her. My girls were both potty trained number one and two by the ages of two and I just used a sticker reward because that is what they loved. You could you candy, bubble, chalk, anything that she is fond of that will make her go because she will get a reward. Or even make a treasure chest like at the dentist with bunch of dollar store items. Hope this helps.

Since she was doing well before and has suddenly wanted to not go to the bathroom, I would suspect a UTI. It can cause pain when she goes, hence she doesn't want to go. I would get her in to the doctor, just to rule it out.

you could try giving her more potty time "structure". for example, everyone (you and her and anyone else who's potty trained in the house:) sits on the potty before leaving the house and just after arriving home, before/after meals, before/after sleeping, etc. this way there is a predictable rhythm for taking a break and using the potty - because it sounds like maybe she just doesn't want to be interrupted from what she's doing to use the bathroom. i think this can be a big, annoying change for kids who have been "trained" by us to just go pee whenever/wherever for the first 2-3 years of their lives. when you use this structure, btw, it's not necessary that she actually goes pee every time, but simply that she sit on the potty for a reasonable amount of time and thus learns that there are regular opportunities throughout the day to use the potty. eventually she will self regulate more and you won't have to do this. it also means you don't have to constantly ask "do you need to use the potty?" you will just tell her, "in 10 minutes we will sit on the potty and then wash our hands and eat lunch", for example. i will just add that i don't think rewards are such a good idea. for me, using the potty is just a part of life, not something we should teach a child to expect a reward for. lots of moms potty train without rewards, so it is very possible. and lots of parenting experts caution against reward charts and such in general. just a thought!

Has there been a drastic change in the home recently? Like a new baby, moving, new school, noew routine/schedule? That's what happened with my son. He was pretty much potty trained until his little brother came into the picture. We were back to square one. He's has some mental disabilities, so I really wasn't able to explain to him about the situation and that he still needs to go potty in the toilet, so I was kinda forced to go back to the diapers during the day for a few months. We are starting back up again. If he didn't have that developmental disablitilty to make it more difficult, I probably would have just tried to explain to him about his brother, and why he all of a sudden showed up. Why it's ok to still go potty in the toilet. Tell him that I understood that things were different and it was confusing and hard. Talk to him on his level, and even ask him questions about how he felt. That sort of thing. Now if nothing drastic has changed that you can think of, then I don't know how to help you, I've never heard of it happening. Maybe just ask her why she's having a problem going potty anymore. Just talk to her about it. Probably not a lot of help, sorry.

yup. my 2 yr old on her own was in underwear. all good.
saw another kid get a diaper changed and decided she wanted to do that and refuses most of the time now.
back to diapers.

This happens and she is just working you for whatever reason. I would get a reward bowl of dollar store toys and candy that she loves and let her dig through it and look at all the wonderful things. Then tell her she can pick something out every time she pees or poops in the toilet. Then tell her that the more she drinks the more she will pee and get more toys. I did this for a week with my middle son and it worked like a charm, he never had an accident - EVER!

She just needs some solid motivation (like stuff). = ) Good luck.