Potty Training - Syracuse,NY

My son is the same age and is his second year of preschool. Last year he was having pee accidents and not telling anyone (his teachers and sometimes me when I picked him up). I talked to his teacher and she helped by making sure he always had a turn when the class had a potty break. His school is good about having the kids all use the potty between activities (after lunch and snack time usually). I'd see what the schedule is like in school and see if the teachers can help remind her at least every two hours. Also, full days may just be making her very tired by the end of the day. Is she having the accidents late in the day? My son is tired when I pick him up at 12:45 (he has about 4 hours at school, 5 days). He also now goes to be much earlier than when he was 3 and still took a nap.

Hi S.
Maybe she has less accidents at home because you are there to remind her to use the toilet.
Talk to the teacher and ask her to remind your daughter regularly to go to the toilet. She is still young and might need some reminding and support.
Maybe she is too busy playing and having fun,or else maybe anxious to go off to the toliet on her own in the school.
I would try to look at it from your daughters perspective first,talk to the teacher.
If it doesn't improve then I would start reward charts etc.
Best of luck
B.

I agree with the other posts, but think you should also speak to her pediatrician. My son 5 year old has had the same kind of issues off and on for a couple of years. I thought it was all behavioral. It got bad again last month and I took him to the doctor. It turns out he was severely constipated, which puts pressure on the bladder causing urine accidents and also stops the feeling of needing to poop causing frequent soiling (little bits at a time throughout the day). I also feel there is a psychological side to it that I plan on investigating as well, but right now we are focusing on cleaning him out and getting his colon back on track. Good luck! I know how frustrating it is.

Dear S., Have you asked her why? Are there any changes in your home, a new baby, is someone missing? She may be looking for attention. Rewards will not help, you must get to the root of the problem. She knows how to go to the bathroom...... Grandma Mary

Put her back down to 4 half days. She is letting you know she is not happy. Take her to the library after school, snuggle in a comfy chair and read books for an hour - that's the best preparation for school anyway!

Do they have regular potty breaks? She may be so involved in what she
is doing that she tries to wait to go. Does she tell the teacher when she
has to go? Is she afraid to ask to go. I think you need to talk to teacher
and maybe something could be worked out. Good luck.

I have found that most accidents happen at school due to the child having too much fun and not wanting to stop to use the restroom. Work with the teacher to set up more potty breaks by using the "when...then" approach. I'm sure your child is not the only one.