My DD who is 2 and a half is doing awesome with potty training. She wears underwear during the day and tells me when she has to go potty. We have been potty training seriously for a week. The past 2 days she has not had an accident. However this is only when she has to go pee. She is havng lots of trouble going to poop in the potty. She keeps it in and then at night she struggles to keep it in and it becomes extremely painful for her. She wears a pull up at night and then eventually she will poop in it but feels so bad. She really tries to go poop in the potty but is scared. I keep encouraging her and don't get upset with her when she poops in the pull-up as she feels horrible. She really wants to poop in the potty but does not know how to.
What can I do to help her. Any advice wold be greatly appreciated.
R.
I have the same advice as every one else. My son would pee in the potty and was afraid to poop in it. I offered him prizes and got him the flushable wipes because he struggled with the toilet paper and he was pooping in no time. A little incentive goes a long way with a kid. :) Good Luck!
The only way I got my dd to poop in the potty was to not let her out of my sight one day. If I went to the bathroom - she came with me. Eventually, she couldn't hold it in anymore and I was in the bathroom already. So, I scooped her up and put her on the potty and she went. She hasn't had an accident - ever. The other suggestion I have is to go cold turkey... no pull-ups. I've heard it can be confusing and when you put them in underwear, they can poop in their underwear. We did a program that worked really well. My 2-year old threw away all of her diapers when we started and we didn't go back... no matter what. She even slept at night in her underwear and took naps. We never used pull-ups. If she had an accident - it's just one more way for her to learn what is expected. She was trained in 3 days (poop and pee). If you want to learn more about it, feel free to ask me. I will be using the same program when my 2-month old twins are ready to potty train.
Best of luck. I hope this helped!
K.
I know that I have no good advice, but I have the opposite problem. My 28 month old will only poop in the potty and will not pee-pee. Every kid is so different.
R. - we had the same problem with my son. Pooping in the potty is scary!! What we did is we had a long talk and told him anytime he had to go poop, to ask for a pullup. He did - and then would go in the other room, poop, and then we'd take it right off and go back to underwear. The pressure surrounding going in the potty was very stressful to his digestive tract and was causing a lot of problems. The solution of the pullup really worked & then helped him really understand his body's own signals for pooping.
This was what we did for approx 2-3 months, then we approached the potty - he got candy for going in the actual potty, but not in his pullup. We still did a no-pressure thing - he got to choose how to go, but eventually the candy won out.
So maybe my method would work for you. If she is in the habit of going at the same time each day, you can start by putting her i a pullup about a half hour before & just not even saying anything.
Try not to let her feel bad about going in the pullup. She's still really young! It's okay for her not to get it down yet. Allow her to progress through this at her pace, not yours, and just give her the tools and encouragement to become fully potty trained. She'll get there, I promise. Good luck! S.
My little girl had no problems with teetee in the potty, but poops, the same thing! My pediatrician suggested a reward. I tried m & m's...not enough incentive. Popsicles did the trick! Everytime she pooped in the potty she got a pop ice...in no time we were on track...good luck!;)
I had the same problem...some children see the poop as an actual part of them, and it's frightening to see and feel a part of them being flushed away. Make sure you explain, in very simple terms so as to limit a million questions, what poop is, where it comes from, and if it doesn't go, it will make her sick. Keep the fiber and water going strong so she doesn't get constipated, because if it hurts, she will not be willing to try again for awhile. Try stooping beside her and just hugging her and speaking gently while she sits on the potty and you know it's time for her daily BM. That's what finally worked with my DD. Once she did it, she only had one or two "accidents" after that. She'll get the hang of it, trust me. Then you can start spending that Pull Up money on pretty panties! Or gas for your car :)
My third child is potty training right now and we have had great success in getting her to poo in the potty by telling her to toot in the potty. She will toot on us and we will take her to the potty and tell her to toot in the potty. She doesn't fuss and ends up pooping. Now if we tell her to poo in the potty she will cry and refuse. I don't know what the difference is, but maybe if you approach it a little differently things will be easier for her.
I am not at the potty training stage yet (I have a 11 month old) BUT my sister had the toughest time with her daughter. Finally one day she decided that she would cut a hole in the pull up where it would be aligned with going potty. She asked her daughter throughout the day to sit on the potty when she thought she would need to go. Well she sat on the potty with the pull up and did her business not realizing that it went in the toilet. With that my sister showed her that there was nothing to be afraid of and she has been going since on the potty. As her reward she got to hand down her left over pull ups to her cousin since she was a big girl now.
My daughter was completely potty trained and then suddenly one day would not poop in the potty. Peeing was no problem but she was afraid to poop. This went on for a month. Then my husband took the top off of the tank of the potty and explained to her how it worked and that it was just a machine. He let her flush it and watch how the machine did its job. Then he explained what happened to the water after it left and how new clean water came into the potty. Fixed the problem!! For some reason it was no longer scary once she understood how the potty functioned. Go figure!
Hi R.! Every parent goes through something with potty training so your not alone. When I put my son on the potty to go poop I let him read a book called "Everyone Poops". I actually had gotten it as a joke and he saw it and wanted so that's what I started using. And explained that everyone does it. And then I told him it would splash him when he went and he's a boy so he thought that was cool. He's been doing it ever since and has only had one accident and that was not his fault it was ours. So you have to find something that's gonna work for her. Best of luck!
My suggestion is to not worry and give it a little more time. My daughter did the same thing and then she finally just got it. Don't make it stressful for your child and she will eventually relax. The reward helped my daughter some too. Fruit snacks worked for her. Also, when she poops in her pull up if you can drop the poop off of the pull up in to the potty and say, "Poo poo goes in the potty." Good luck. :)
