i am not a mom doing my job is very important to me i am a child care providera\ and he will not go to the bathroom
He needs to see a pediatrician for an evaluation Asap.
Could be something physically wrong, or emotionally at home. Please get him care soon.
My son did this when he when he was 5 - maybe about 4 x a week when he was at Kindergarten!!! He knew he should not do it, but it kept happening. He told me it was because he didn't want to stop what he was doing and go all the way to the bathroom. Once we found out why he was doing it I stopped being so understanding and was very stern with him, telling him this was unacceptable. I also had the teacher remind him several times a day. Then he eventually stopped doing it and we gave him a lot of praise!
There's not really enough information in your request for much useful advice, but three things come to mind.
1. Lea could be right that this boy has a medical problem, such as severe constipation or encopresis, which can effectively numb his bowels so that he can not feel the need to poop. But soft poop can push past the blockage and he can soil himself before he knows it's going to happen.
2. There's some kind of power struggle going on, and he is objecting or digging in his heels in the only way he knows. If that is the case, then you and his parents would all do well to work on some new communication techniques, or it probably won't get much better.
or, 3. The child has some kind of neurological delay, emotional disorder, or other dysfunction that may need evaluation and therapy.
If you can say more about what's going on with him when he soils himself, moms with experience might be able to give more specific advice.
Google "ecopresis" and see if it applies to this little guy. Discuss the issue with the mom.
I agree with the other answers, and would like to add, please treat him with dignity. He is at an age where he's going to be very sensitve to doing things that people make fun of him and it will make things worse. His body may not be cooperating with his mind or emotions, and he may feel very ashamed. This is a natural human function that he needs to feel normal about, if that's where the issue lies.
