Parents of "Onlies"?

I agree with you and Bel413... it's a personal choice...I have a 10 year old son who is adopted and we have a good thing going...he's a happy guy...once upon a time I wanted to have a few kids, having grown up an only myself...but in this day and age, things are expensive, kids are expensive, and adoption (the only way we could even have more) is expensive...life is expensive...this way he gets what he needs and all our love. and we have a good connection....with that said I'm an only and sometimes I wish (and wished then) that there was someone else particularly that there weren't many kids my age in my neighborhood and also now with the aging parent thing you don't get any help ....You need to do what you feel is best for you and your family and enjoy your little one...kids grown way to fast...good luck

I'm with you on this 100% I also have a 2 1/2 year old daughter and I am perfectly happy with just the one. I had a very difficult time conceiving and had a pregnancy where I spent 7 months on house rest. After having her I've come to realize I like just having her. It sounds kind of selfish but I enjoy giving all my love to just her and not another little one. And frankly kids are expensive and we couldn't afford another one even if we wanted to. I have a brother who is 12 years older than me so I felt like an only child at times and never felt like I was missing out on something because I didn't have a younger sibling. My brother also has one child who just turned 10 and they don't plan on having anymore. It's a personal choice and no one should judge you on it. I also have people constantly say when are you going to have another one or omg i can't believe you are leaving her an only child, but honestly they aren't the one ones raising the kids they want me to have so I just let the comments role off. I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only feeling that one child is enough :)

I have a slightly different take, but am happy to connect with other parents of onlies. I also have a 2.5 yr old son and actually want another, but it doesn't look like it's in the cards for us so I'm trying to make myself content with our family of 3. It seems everyone, including myself sometimes, just can't picture how our family is full with just one child, but at least I got to have this one really fabulous kid, and so many people aren't that lucky. So, I am starting to make my peace with it. Anyway, I feel the exclusion a lot too and get the "when your next one comes along," thing all the time. None of those parents realize how hurtful or judgmental it seems. And for me, it hurts how much they take for granted that they could just have as many as they want! Hang in there and enjoy your wonderful child!