Does anybody else ever have those moments(hours) when it all just seems too much? Babys crying "after 9:45", the 9 yr olds help only makes it worse, your husbands so deep into the Hangover II that he's oblivious to it all???? And all you want to do is unwind, not to be asked to "ooh watch this part" or hear whining in the very near distance. Just coffee, peace and me time?
I actually feel like crying
The movie finally ended, my husband took the baby. my 9yr old is queitly watching t.v in the room with me. Slowly but surely I faught back the tears and my heart rate is dropping below stroke zone.
Yes, I have been there. Trying to get my 3 yr old down and the baby. And if I want to "talk" to my husband he is quite, if I want to watch TV or read a book he is a chater box. I call my best friend, make plans and get out for coffee and a chat to unwind.
Good luck
We all get them. My overload comes during nap time if I have one or two children refusing to sleep, or I just get them to sleep and someone comes to the door or rings the phone and wakes them up, or they just get to sleep and all the sudden my mother and or daughter is banging around in the kitchen and having full volume conversations. When I've been up since 5:30, done dishes, swept floors, served 2 meals, changed 3-4 dirty diapers and several wet ones, paid some bills, taken the school age children to school, gone to the gas station, broke up several squabbles, had words with the 11 year old over homeschooling, and dealt with my mother and her moods... By the time the kids are down, I don't want anyone to move or speak for 2-3 hours.
Hand your husband the baby! Tell him that he can hand baby back when baby's done crying.:) Go tackle the nine year old, then get yourself a nice beverage... tea or a glass of wine. Those are hard moments, and they will get better. Or at least, they'll be different.
The holidays are hard on everyone. Our kids are whacked out, our husbands are exhausted (and sometimes braindead) and we're trying to cover all the bases. I was wondering the same thing you were yesterday--how come it's on the moms to make sure everyone's fed and the roof is still on the house and that the routines are as close to normal as possible? Guys are often gone out of the house and they just don't 'get' those things sometimes. My husband helped out a lot this Christmas, and a lot of it was still paddling upstream....
Yep. Those moments... we all have them.:)
Wish I could give you a quick fix answer, but all I can do is offer some comfort by saying we all understand. I have a 4 month old daughter and my son will be 3 in a few weeks. When they both start whining for me at the same time during the day it's bad enough, but after my husband comes home from work he will disappear upstairs to unwind thenfall asleep on the couch and many nights I'm left to get my son ready for bed alone and it's up to me to then make sure out daughter gets down for at least some time before mid night feedings, which are completely left up to me because my husband sleeps through literally everything.
Being pulled in 2 directions by your kids and feeling like you get no help can definitely push you to your limit. There aren't enough hours in the day to get everything done let alone have quiet time to yourself. Here's my advice, they won't give you time alone, just take it. Even if it's only 5 min. And if you need a good cry, go for it. It can be a good quick stress reliever just to let it out.
Yep-- once it all calms down take a nice bath or shower AND cry-- you got to let the stress out!
