... watch your kids while they're sleeping and just stare? Get lost in the moment and almost CRY? (maybe you're like me and you do cry?) Do you ever go in their rooms while they're in school and look around (listening to the peace and quiet) at their favorite stuffed animal sitting sad & alone on the bed and wonder if Winkey Fuzzy Buns misses them as much as you? Or see the craft table with a picture half-drawn with the marker cap left off but you don't get mad bc you imagine them rushing off in a hurry to see their friends? Or walk into the nursery while they're still at daycare and you can still smell the lingering morning diaper and though its disgusting- it makes you MISS HER????
Or am I just psycho.
Well I'm glad this is normal. I figured that she's 5 now, I'd get over this "wonderment" about being a parent by now, however it hasnt gone away. I still go in their rooms and just feel amazed.
I am literally "LOL" at the mom who said this shows I have "too much time" on my hands!! You goofball!
If you ONLY knew my schedule. And believe me, if I had "time", my youngest (20mo) would NOT be in daycare!!!!! Trust me, I'd love more time with her. Between work, going to classes (getting my masters), training for my marathon, all of my 5yo's activities, planned family activities, dates with my husband, church, studying etc... I'd love to squeeze in there a mommy & me gym thing for the little one. (working on that, hopefully fridays).
Girrrrrlfriend, if you only knew.
But I won't complain. I have a blessed life.
And yes, to answer another question: she does in fact have two bunnies: one is Winky and one is Fuzzy Buns (she got the name idea from a friend lol), they both have middle names as well. She's a silly kid.
Yes. It's wonderful that you're soaking this in now...it will one day all be a memory. I try to remember that every day.
Ok so not usually. Only because I am home with her all day, everyday and she's only 2, and doesn't go to daycare or anything yet. But the times this does happen to me is when my inlaws want her overnight. Everytime, by 10 o'clock i am saying I miss her, I want to go get her. I keep looking for her to come running around the corner, I go to her room like she's hiding in there or something, I want a hug from her, etc. ANNNDDDD I don't sleep well at all without her here.
I don't think it's psycho at all. It's sweet. =)
Well, if you are psycho, then so am I. I often take a few moments to just stare at them while they are sleeping. Sometimes I just do it because they are so sweet. Other times I do it when we are going through a particularly difficult stage. Like my 2.5 year old throwing multiple tantrums/day. When I see him lying there all sweet and innocent it makes me remember that he really is just a baby and he is super sweet under it all!
I do. I miss them 10 minutes after they're gone. I wait a month to get a night out with my husband then spend the whole time talking about them and want to go home early! But do you ever.... get tired of thier annoying behinds? Put them in the bathtub just to get them off your lap for 30 minutes? Go to the grocery store and leave them with dad, just to get an hour of nobody asking you for something to eat or drink or whining, arguing, crying, breaking stuff, or making messes? lol I miss them when the're gone, but it doesn't take long for them to get on my nerves when they come back. Lord I knows I love those little buggers but they try a mamas patience.
Nope-not psycho at all :-)
Sometimes I look at moms with younger kids and begin to cry because I miss those days SO much!!! I picture myself 5 years ago pushing the stroller and holding a hand...The bittersweet pain of thinking about this sometimes brings me to my knees. I just cannot even imagine how quick I got from there to here. Now they are too cool to hold my hand in public or simply don't need to anymore. Sometimes I look at the artwork they made me in preschool and cry remembering the day they gave it to me. Well I could go on and on....I am such a sentimental sap when it comes to my boys. I really try to live in the moment because it all goes by so fast.
If your are psycho then I am right there with you!!!
Mine is 14 now and when I go to bed he is usually already in his room asleep so sometimes I go in and adjust his blankets and just watch him breathe.
Weird, I know - but I do love him so much and we are so busy and always moving and doing things that I miss the stillness of him.
aw :) you're a great mommy.
I really do :-) Its not psycho - its called being a Caring Parent! lol I'm still AMAZED every day that he is MINE (ours), we created him and LOVE him soo much! Dont get me wrong , I do enjoy my alone time (which isnt very often) but I'm ALWAYS thinking about him :-) xoxoxo
I used to do that all the time when they were babies! Just sit and stare at them while they slept. Ignore the dirty dishes, loads of laundry, beds that needed to be made, dinner that needed to be cooked and just stare and stare at their perfect little sleeping faces. I don't do that anymore, but I have, on occasion while flipping through channels, found myself watching iCarly or Hannah Montana for 5 whole minutes before realizing "oh, wait, they're not even here, why am I watching this?" Or going into my daughter's room to talk to her hamster because it's the only other living creature in the house besides me and the fish. I love the peace and quiet when they're not home, but I REALLY love the whirlwind that follows them in the door when they get home from school!
No... You're just psycho!
Totally kidding :)
Although I haven't done that yet, as my son is only 3 months old, I'm sure I will do it plenty of times in my life.
And I just have to ask... Does one of your kids actually have a 'Winky Fuzzy Buns'?
I still go in and check on them/kiss them when they sleep. (my oldest is 15)
I think it is normal... those are our babies! :)
My kids just found a box of my 3 year old's old blankets and burp rags and decided to use them for their baby dolls. I picked a burp rag up and smelled it and it still smelled like baby vomit. Lol. It made me happy and sad at the same time that I miss her being so little, but so cute that she's now a healthy, bouncy little girl and is loving on her own babies. They grow so fast don't they?
I think it is kind of sweet, but tells me that you have a little too much time on your hands. But no, it doesn't make you psycho.
I just had a baby a few months ago and EVERYTHING makes me miss him!
I go in to my boys' room every morning and kiss their sleeping cheeks before I leave for work. They sleep several more hours with daddy and I can't stand the thought of leaving without that one last kiss. Yes, I sometimes linger and stare. :)
Yes, your a good loving mommy. I too go in my sons room literally every night just about and look at him while he sleeps and think how perfect and innocent he is and how much I love him. If for whatever reason he ever sleeps at grandmas and I wake up in the morning and he's not there, I go in his room and miss him very much. Not psycho at all, just a loving M..
It's good to know there are parents who deeply love their children!!! AWESOME!!!
Yep, I do that.
You are NORMAL.
Awww, that's adorable, not psycho, and yes, I have those moments too. Without them, my children wouldn't survive ;)
Yes I did! Unfortunately my babies are both in college. One is 23 and the other is 19. I cried when I read all the posts...now that sad. :) I sure do miss them but I still go and their room and look at their belongings! I love the holidays. No you are no psycho!!
As they have gotten older the moments are fewer and farther apart but I still cherish them. Going into their room to turn off the TV on a Saturday night, I will watch them in the ambient TV light. I kiss their sweaty little heads. You are not alone. I miss the babies I once had but celebrate the young men they are becoming. I my oldest is to the point now where I have to sit on his lap and hug him rather than the other way around. I could just squeeze them!!!!! I totally understand. I could get really depressed over what I feel I have "missed."
This is so normal..I'll often get one of their stuffed animals pillow blanket & smell & just smile
That makes two of us. I am a single parent to a wide eyed wonderful 8 yr old blonde headed boy! When he visits with his dad i often just sit on his bed and imagine him playing there. At night, I continuously go in his room and hug him and kiss his cheek or forehead and whisper "mommy loves you" in his ear. Most my friends are excited to get time away from their kids...I get a little sad when my son is away. I don't want to miss anything..they grow up to fast and I want to make sure i get to see everybit of his growing up!
Yup-I'm so there.
I'm back at work and I miss them as soon as I'm in the car. I sneak in, in the morning and watch them sleep before I leave..I sneak peeks thru the rearview mirror when they aren't looking-or at night go and sit next to them while they sleep trying to take in every beauty mark, length of eylashes, etc I can and imprint in my mind.
Or-on the rare occasion I'm the only one home I don't know what to do with myself and often just end up wanting them to come home. Or take their clothes out of the dryer and because there laundry detergent is different-smell the clothes and instantly feel like they are right there.
I check on both my kids every night before I go to bed, kiss them on the head and wish time would stop for a while so they wouldnt change. Sometimes I get a hug back sometimes just a sleepy groan, I will miss it when they are older
Of course! In fact, the other night my husband was reading our daughter a bedtime story. I joined them on her bed and just stared at her face as she was so animated and delighted with the story. I wish I had had a video camera that moment because she was the picture of beautiful innocence. My eyes welled up with tears and I had to bury my face in her covers! :)
