Oral Sex - Destin,FL

I agree with Just M. I wasn't able to with my ex, but have discovered he wasn't doing it right. And using the hand along with it is the trick for me!

Give him some direction, relax and enjoy!

unless you are very flexible I'd say he needs the tips

ETA: I am supppper confused by people saying its normal. It's anatomically (is that the right word?) easier to climax during this than intercouse since the right parts are stimulated. the guys have to be doing something wrong. help and direct them...and have them use thier hand too

It might be normal. But food for thought: technique may be playing roll. You may do a little better if he also uses his fingers in your vagina. Michellle states the obvious, he should be focusing on the clitirous. That said in my experience some can get me to climax in seconds, others it takes forever! Its not me, its them! My two cents: technique is everything.

1. completely normal
2. get out of your head and into the moment (it's easier to enjoy it that way)

I will probably be the only person ever to say this but....I do not enjoy oral sex. Never have. I've always been told that it's because they are doing it wrong. I disagree, I just don't enjoy it.

I agree with Just M. It's actually not normal unless he's doing it wrong.

Lucky you, some of us wish we had a partner to do this with, or that our partner would WANT to do it so consider yourself blessed, but that's another story...The most important thing is to relax, relax, relax. When you worry about whether it will happen, it won't happen. You have to just close your eyes and relax, or if you enjoy watching your partner, then that is fine too and can be pretty damn hot in and of itself, but don't worry about when it will happen or if it will happen.

Also, you need to stop being self-conscious, I know some women may be worrying about whether they smell nice, or are too hairy, etc. (I know I'm one of those worrywart-types when it comes to whether my parts are to my partner's taste as some prefer hair while others don't, etc.), but if your partner is down there, chances are he/she is happy with you and your parts.

Practice makes perfect...for both of you. He/she may need to know what you like and you might still be discovering that yourself, so have your partner try different things, read up/watch different techniques and explore, and I am sure that over time, you will find what you like and what gets you excited the most. Don't give up, don't get discouraged, or depressed. Try, try, try again.

As others have said, have your partner use their fingers as well, as that can bring on even more stimulation, and have him/her try using them and the tongue on different parts down there. If you have clitoral stimulation at the same time as you're receiving oral, or even some penetration with your partner's fingers at the same time as oral, I am sure you will eventually be able to climax. If not, no biggie, use it as foreplay, or as a way of getting yourself lubed up for penetration. I am sure your partner will be completely ok with that if he/she loves you and won't blame him/herself or you if it doesn't happen.

Good luck, and like I said, practice, patience, and relax, you'll be fine :)

I completely agree with Riley on the being relax and time to rev up. And this is pretty random, and embarrassing, but it also helps and drives me crazy when Im standing up....

Totally normal. No tricks here, cause I'm not able to either. I decided it didn't matter to me (plenty of other ways to have fun), but hopefully some of these good ladies -- or men -- will have ideas for you.

I *can* climax from it, but very rarely.

In my case, it's mostly my fault... I get EXTREMELY self-conscious about it, so I can't relax enough to enjoy it. (of course... his technique isn't really all that great... lol!)

But... he is GREAT with his hands, so I usually encourage that. lol. ;)

I beg to differ from the women who say this isn't normal. It IS normal for me to not climax from oral stim. I've never liked it and I've had several men do it - some were better than others, but I've just never found it does much for me. I'd be perfectly happy if my husband never did it again. Poor guy, he tries every once in a while because he says he wants to.

I have no problem climaxing (every time, sometimes multiple times) with manual stimulation. I just don't like oral sex. I have no mental hang ups about it. I shower before sex every time, so that's not an issue.

If you enjoy other things, I wouldn't worry about it.

Different women need different kinds of stimulation in order to climax. Just keep trying different things until you find the thing that sends you up the walls.

Is it possible that you are being overstimulated? It's a problem that I still have on occasion with my DH, sometimes a little slower to start helps a lot.