Online Role Models

Wow! Thank you! I'm speechless!

I, too, appreciate this sight and all the wonderful women. I feel close to many of you. For me, an important part of living is to learn and grow. It's taken me many years and some painful experiences to recognize that all of us are doing the best we can with what we know. I first had to accept this for myself. I was always my own worst critic. I felt I was not good enough much of the time. Not good enough to be in certain groups in school. Not good enough to be loved. Not a good enough parent. Etc. Once I loved myself with my Iimperfections I could love others with their imperfections. Under it all we are all the same, seeking love and acceptance; often expecting perfection.

WWMD? I love it!
She has great answers!
I love Suz T. Just the right mix of balance, wisdom & a pinch of sarcasm!

There are a great many people (personas) here that I admire - too many to mention.
(I try to remember that who we are while on here is NOT necessarily a true representation of the real person.)
I agree with some most of the time and disagree with a few point some of the time.
And some times I (as well as some others) feels like tugging on the tigers tail and are less politically correct as we should be - but then everyone's entitled to blow off a little steam sometime.

Marda is exactly what we all need to be when we grow up.

It's a great gift to this site that she gives her time, knowledge, and experience.

I, personally, am a better person for her shining presence.

:)

I like you, Nervy Girl!! And a few other favorites for sure. I've taken lots of advice from this site. I've also learned there are many very different ways to do things "right" for kids and I like the spectrum of personalities here. I've "befriended" (online :) some ladies with opposite views from mine on major topics and I respect a lot of what they have to say. Most recently, I posted about how to handle a dating situation, and I was shocked how many ladies were like, "Cut that poor guy loose!" And you know what? I did! I thought a lot about what people had said, weighed it, and realized, that even though it probably wasn't what I would have done on my own right away, it was the right thing. And it was. Also, I posted freaking out about video games for my little kids, and a mom who I admire on here shared that her WELL ADJUSTED ADULTS had played plenty, so I felt much less freaked. I love the wisdom of the moms with grown kids best of all. Thanks, ladies!!!!

Great opportunity to voice appreciation for a few of people whose posts get me to think, people whose posts I look for... Suz, Marda, Nervy Girl :), Diane B, Amy J, Rose M, Suzanne W, Dana, Rosecity, Laura M (in Austin) come to mind right now. There are a bunch of other folks; I just can't think of their names at the moment.

Thinking about a post last week about people whom I miss... Riley J and DadOnPurpose come to mind. I hope they are doing well.

Also, I have found in my life that everyone has some wisdom to share. It almost always happens that when I'm tending to write off someone in my mind and dismiss them as if they have nothing to teach me, that person will do or say something which brings me up short and sheds a new light on something important. So, I work to always keep an open mind.

Happy evening to you all!

Aww.. What a nice thing to share :-).

My morning coffee is the most sacred time of the day, and after I get my coffee I click on to you guys :-).i look forward to the responses from Marda, Mamazita, Nervy Girl, Verucca Salt, Suz T., Leigh R., Diane B., Diane D., Julie S., Amy J., ChristyLee, Queenofthecastle, Sweetchaoswith3, Mymission,Gamma G., Doris Day, Swim Sally, Angioplasty, Changed4privacy, Felinestroller, Fanged Bunny,Peg m. K-bell, Marie C., Canuck, Hellonheels, Mymission, Southern Yankee.....and all that join. But just to name a few....

I feel like I have gotten to know you all through your answers.

It amazes me that one question can have so many I interpretations.

When someone who I think is like minded answered differently, it makes me pause and think. I enjoy that.

I also enjoy the support that you all give to strangers.

So I think there are a lot of different 'role models' on this sight that we just may not know about :-).

Many blessings to you all!

ETA: the other Suzanne answered a question about medical health issues and how it affects marriage. This answer resonated with me for weeks.
JUlie G. 's post about trusting her husband to not "screw" her for being a SAHM should they divorce also led to a discussion in our home.

you know, i started to list all the role models i've got on this site, but quit because i'm afraid of how many i'll forget and leave off.
so i'll just say that yes, i adore marda. and you!
:) khairete
S.

I agree with you. I love Marda's answers; they always are so reasonable and wise. She also speaks in a way that is straightforward but not rudely blunt; she knows how to word things in "the right way".

I always look for Suz's answers and would love to meet her. I believe she was raised with the same religious background as me, so I feel like I can identify with her somewhat. I really love her sense of humor and the positive way she views the world. I also love that she really seems to know herself.

I also like Doris Day quite a bit. Her answers are always kindly worded, even when the poster is being horribly rude. You can tell that Doris Day always truly wants to help. I have learned a lot from her answers about how NOT to be a doormat, as she often speaks up about not letting others take advantage of my/others' good nature.

There are lots of great ladies on here that offer wisdom and we can really learn from!

I have to add that I appreciate the input from Marda as well.

There are so many others I love here as well.

I appreciate stating my opinion and if someone doesn't like it... That's ok.. It's no reason to go flame me or others who didn't blow smoke up panties.

I'm just a real person with a real attitude. I know I'm not everyone's BFF and I don't try to be. I try to look out for children and moms who truly need help.

I do look up to Marda but funny, I look up to you as well.

I know my Achilles heel, seeing friends attacked in a stupid manner. Every time, sucks me in. I will have to ask Marda about that one.

I miss Ephie, I almost used her real name, oops. She is like you, this way with words that few possess.

Well I like Marda too, and YOU! And off the top of my head H. W and Suz T usually have very thoughtful and reasonable advice.
I like how Theresa N always keeps it short and sweet and on point.
I wish I could keep from getting emotional but sometimes my "are you effing kidding me" bell goes off and I can't help myself. I have actually had to physically get up and walk away so as to NOT knock someone upside the head, virtually speaking :-)
ETA: OMG I think I DO know you are H. W but somehow didn't put two and two together. So there's twice the love!!!

I am here sometimes, but enough to understand what you are saying....I love Marda's answers; she is the perfect balance, I like Suz T, precise and funny, and Amy and yourself....
We can always learn from someone else who speaks with respect and sense of humor!

A. :)

I think Marda is awesome! I agree that answering in a thoughtful way and considering what you are saying (and proofreading it to be sure there's no misunderstanding) takes time.

I also like Veruca Salt, Anne L., Doris Day, Suz and you. I like Marilyn S. the nurse although she doesn't post a lot.

When someone inspires you to be a better and more comprehensive poster, with some kindness, it's a good example of ways to disagree without badmouthing. There is a way to disagree with someone's position without calling them out with a lot of name calling. That really gets to me.

I am sure I am leaving out some names! No offense intended - just these names came to mind quickly.

On another subject, does anyone remember someone named Dandy Lion (I think) who had some insane posts that were so hard to figure out??? She would disappear for a while, then show up again, and a bunch of you would say things like "Oh, Dandy, we missed you!"

I didn't know you are H., love your posts. Marda is great, she has wonderful insight. I could really work on not getting sucked in too, now I will have have the WWMD stuck in my head.

I love your posts, H.. ♥

I love folks who make me think. Who see things from a different perspective and make me reconsider my own. Julie S. does that a lot. There are too many names to mention and I'm scared of leaving any lovely mama out....so I won't.