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Tomorrow I will be getting my tubes tide. I will be having my third boy, but we will have five children all together.
I guess my advice would be think of it as if you were pregnant right now. How would that make you feel? do you want to go through nine months of that again? I'm not saying every child is a blessing, but sometimes i do believe you can get in over your head... I'm not refering to you, i'm refering to myself. I have a fifteen month old right now and when he was six months old i found out i was pregnant. I am now delivering another baby tomorrow. I am way in over my head, i love him and would be devistated if he wasn't coming into the world, but can we afford mentally or money wise to have another one?
I don't know if this has helped you, but good luck on your decission. I should be something you and your husband decide together, so tell him how your feeling.

Hi A.,
When I had my tubal ligation almost 10 years ago now, I was scared too. What would I do if anything happened to my 2 girls...what if I found someone (I was divorced at the time) who wanted children and I couldn't give them any, etc. Those are normal fears and questions, but...
You are so blessed with the children you have. Heaven forbid, none of us want anything bad to happen to any of our children and in my case, if something DID happen, I surely couldn't go through it all over again by having another one.
Rejoice in the 6 children you have and the love you share with your husband. The vasectomy is probably a good thing and if it bothers you that much, talk to your doctor or someone professional about your feelings.
Good luck and enjoy what you have.

I had the same concerns. I have two wonderful boys and my husband said that was enough and our families pressured him into getting *Fixed* I was 33 when I had my second child and I felt that was old enough. I had doubts. I wanted a girl, I love my boys but I did want both. So for many years, I resented the fact of not being able to have another one. Now, that my youngest is 8 almost, I don't resent it. I'm glad I don't have a toddler or heaven forbid another baby. With six I can understand not wanting your child to grow out of babyhood. You've always had babies, I mean, I don't know how old your youngest is but with six, they have to be little, still.
Anyway, I think, maybe, you'll like it when they get older and you no longer have to deal with two-year-old tantrems or up twice a night for feedings and like the fact that they can amuse themselves. Trust in God and he'll give you the right answer. He did for me. Good Luck!!!!

I'm in a simialr situation. I'm pregnant with our 4th and we feel like we are done after this baby. But I share your fear. I think about it more than I wish I did. Let me know if you find any answers ; )

M.

Hi A.,
Well, first just pray about it! It sounds like you have a beautiful family full of love! My hubby had a vas after our last baby and I have to say that the worry-free "love" is so worth it! Any time and any where...(sorry if that is too much info!) Also, as someone who had a stillborn, a new baby can never take away the ache in your heart for a lost one. I understand your hessitation. Vas can sometimes be reversed (although not easy)And if you felt in your heart that you need another child, what about adoption? It is so normal to have cold feet! I sure did! But, pray, and take this gift that your sweet husband is giving you! Love and thoughts...M.

I had those same feelings before my husband got it done after our second one. you are having very normal feelings.
it does give you a freedom that wasn't there before. as mentioned below..lol

i hope after it's done you feel more secure in your decision.

how i dealt with my feelings was i tried to concentrate on all the great things i had and not on the small % of the chance something would happen to one of my kids and all that. and having to deal with those questions/feelings. and felt we would deal with it at that time

good luck hope to hear an update

I know how you feel my husband had it done as well we talked for quite a while about it and we thought it was the best for us and if we ever did want another child we thought their was always adoption or foster parenting if down the road we changed our minds. Children are a blessing no matter how they come into our lives. Sometimes they can also do a reversal on the vectomony if that come up later on in your lives. my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.