C.P.
I kinda have a different take on the whole scenario. I have taught my children independence and responsibility from a very young age. To look at my parenting style from the outside it would look like a don't care or I am very lazy. I have a daughter that is beginning her second year of college and a son who is entering the high school this year. I have always had an open policy of communication in my house. It is very interesting to me to watch my children grow and develop their own personalities. I sit back and marvel at the wonderful children that I have raised. I know there are things to worry about but I am pretty confident they are going to make a good decision. It may not be the decision that I would have made but they are prepared to deal with the outcome. I just sent my daughter an email today telling her how proud I was of her for having a strong and independent personality. She just got an apartment with 3 guys! I was stunned for a while when I found out but then I just remembered that she has not gotten to the point she is at now by making bad decisions and being a push-over. I tried not to let her hear my jaw hit the floor and I told her that she needs to remember to love herself or nothing else in life will matter. I don't think anyone has the right answers but I am just giving you some ideas on what has helped me. My baby just graduated kindergarten and that was a really hard thing for me to deal with. I just watch him grow every day and I can see his zest for life and that is what makes me smile.