J.H.
My son is 22 months and definatley an early 2. He listens to me 90% of the time. I do get the occasional stubborn Im not going to look but I make him do it and will stand there till he does. Through trial and error it has been crazy. I tell him "what a good boy" or I clap and say :yeah!" I have never rewarded him with material things or special items because I have always felt that praise is the best reward. I may everynow and then when he is older and understands more but for now I simlpy take him by his hand even if he is having a fit and sit him infront of either the mess he has made or the toy he is to put back and repeat the comand a little sterner. He looks at me bent down in front of him and I will repeat Nicholas please put back for mommy. He then will see we arnt going anywhere till he does this and he will go and do it. Sometimes i help and make it a fun game like mommy helps lets work together. i always tell him how well he did and a hug and kiss are the best rewards. they love to please us more than make us mad. I also had read an article on teaching kids patience by making them complete one task before continuing the one at hand. Like puting a favorite snack next to them and having them complete a task before they can eat it. It proved that these kids became more patient adults and kids growing up. it was really interesting............