Neighbor Problems - Clovis,NM

Can you put up a fence? Is getting them to pay worth the hassel? I would probably just fix the hoop and be done with them.

Forget the hoop. It's more important to not have this escalate any more than it already has. They are crazy jerks, and you just have to do whatever you can to live peacefully next door to them until one of you moves. So let the basketball hoop issue go.

Wow. I don't think you are being irrational, or over-reacting. You haven't DONE anything!! It would make me nervous, too. Especially the woman standing in MY driveway watching MY KID. I'd have had to have stepped outside and loudly called out to her "CAN I HELP YOU?"

If I might ask, how much would it cost for you guys to repair/replace the basketball hoop? If it is not a financial burden for you, I'd go ahead and fix it myself and KEEP MY DISTANCE from them. Avoiding contact with them at almost any cost. The cost of the goal might be the price of peace of mind, in your case.

I also might drop by the local police precinct and just talk with someone there and ask them what they would recommend you do to protect yourselves from future incidents, if anything? Explain in particular the claims the woman made against your children and that she trespassed onto your property watching your child. They may suggest you file something... or not. But it would be interesting to see what they have to say. It's scary, because no matter what happens (good/bad) at this point... these people live right there and you can't make them move. And I'm assuming you have no plans to move anytime soon.

Sad that people can be like that. Geesh.

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i guess what i would do is replace the hoop myself. be done with that part of it. and everytime you or the kids go outside and you see that she is spying on you just turn around and wave!!! that will get her more and make you feel better inside!!!

Small claims court!!

No matter what they say about paying, they have made themselves clear on the issue: they aren't going to pay. While it stinks and isn't right, drop it and move on.

I'd focus on repairing some civility and defusing the situation. If either of them continues to come on your property and badger you, call the police.

Keep your distance for a while and hopefully it will blow over. Peace in the neighborhood is worth more than any basketball hoop. I'd focus on that, personally.

Good luck, I'm sorry you are going through this.

I would fix the hoop myself and wash my hands of them. If they keep harassing you then call base legal or talk to your Family Readiness person for advice on whom to contact though the command since it sounds like you live off base. Sorry, I'm a former Marine wife so I'm not sure what the Air Force called their family services......

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I would have long since called the police non emergency number to file a complaint and have a no contact order placed against them. I have a nutty neighbor that we've had to do that with so I feel your pain. You will never see the money to replace the hoop, some people are just losers that will not take care of their responsibilities. You could sue them in small claims court but that might cause them to escalate to a higher level of crazy. Good Luck and God Bless.

How about small claims court? You can also tell her that if she is going to keep watching your children like that, you will have to call the police (strange neighbor watching your kids...). Tell police you fear for your kids' safety b/c these neighbors are always watching them. Sorry you have to deal with this. I think they never had any intention of paying, they were just saying it assuming you'd say "oh no problem." If it was me, I'd want them to pay too.

Just call your ins. company file a claim. They will investigate and deal with the homeowners. If they don't want to pay to fix it chances are your Ins. company wil take them to court. That's what you pay for ins. for they have lawyers sitting around just waiting for this kind of stuff. And I know because I've been right where you are a few years ago.

Small claims court seems like an option but kinda a pain for the $$$ involved. Your money and energy might be better spent by having a very high, very sturdy fence put up.

You could also look into filing an order of protection from harassment at the county courthouse to prevent them from setting foot on your property, stalking, peeping, etc.

Sounds like the nice neighbor line has been erased. She sounds pretty crazy... I would watch your kids when they are outside... accusing them of stoning her makes me wonder if she would do that to them if your not watching. What a crazy lady. Her husband is in the air force and deployed.. unless air force is paid vastly different then Marines (and heck your husband is air force too) then he's getting paid good, but I'd just buy anothr one and put it AWAY FROM THEIR yard cuz they sound crazyyyyy.
You are not overreacting, you need to watch her when your kids are outside. Did you react when she was yelling at you? I'd have probably laughed in her face honestly... she reminds me of a 12 year old who gathers a gang of friends to show off lol

I wonder, did you think of filing a claim on your homeowner's insurance? Your company just may sue THEIR company for the cost of replacement.

(Sorry about your yucky neighbors, that's very stressful)

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DO NOT FILE A CLAIM WITH YOUR HOMEOWNERS!!!!! You probably have a deductable and the basketball hoop will probably be less than the deductable. But more importantly, homeowners insurance is already expensive and filing a claim can cause your rates to go up, or even more scary for your homeowners to be dropped. I know it was their fault and it's expensive to replace, but unless you are planning to move, you have to think that you are going to live next to these people for a long time. I would let it go and just replace the hoop myself. If you leave it alone, hopefully they will leave you and your kids along. Otherwise, replace it and take them to small claims court to recoup your money.

Replace the hoop, save your receipts, send a copy of the bill to your neighbor. I'm guessing you don't live on base because the authorities would not allow this kind of situation to escalate. Why does this woman scare you? If your really feel afraid for your family's safety by all means call the police. If not, did you get along with your neighbors before this? If so, send a note with the receipt. For instance: "Dear______, Here is the bill to replace our hoop, please pay us as promised. We are sorry this escalated to the point we not longer speak, we don't be at odds with our neighbors.

I hope it works out for your family and theirs. With so many horrible things going on in this world, I think we should be able to put things in perspective.

Blessings.....

Unfortunately it seems the only way your hoop will get replaced is if you take them to court. Stop asking her for the money just go file and if she comes in your yard call the cops, she sounds crazy I'd be scared of her to. You tried to be civil but she bought it to an entire new level and you not be able to reason with her so let the authorities.

Ugh. I would probably take it to small claims court if it's that big of a deal for you to get the hoop replaced... drop it if not. I would also plant a privacy hedge, and put a dummy (or real...) surveilence camera somewhere obvious pointing down the driveway. The fact is that they destroyed your property, and didn't replace it in a timely manner. Their fault, not yours. It's not as if you were harrasing her... I think she may be slightly unhinged, and could be taking the stress in her life (money issues, husband's deployment, whatever) out on you by overdramatizing the situation.

I didn't read all the responses but I would just fix it yourself and just be done with them, but I would contact on base housing if that is where you are living. you shouldn't have to live in fear because these people want to be mean. If you don't live on base you can also tell your husband to go to his chain of command. I am an Army wife and I know it pretty much works the same. I have been having neighbor problems myself with having my upstairs neighbors be extremely rude by letting their kids run, jump and roll around on the floor all day long. It's gotten to the point with us if we call the MP's again both families will be removed off post either to live on the economy or be sent back to the states. So I understand. Nothing is working for my neighbors either and yet people here in Korea don't want to help us. Maybe you will have better luck. Sorry you are going though a rough time.