Neighbor

Mom:

As long as you make it an issue - it will be an issue.

IF you are secure in your relationship and an adult - then I would not give this "little girl" a second thought. However, you have said that you always have to initiate sex with him.

If she is promiscuous - what are you going to do about it? Seriously - you can't control her or her actions. You can only control yours.

If he isn't saying anything to her - he might like the attention. He might have pursued her. You cannot tell him to tell her to shove it...you cannot fore anyone to do anything...you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink..

Tell her to knock it off - or better yet - ignore her!

If you have no reason to distrust your man, this should be a nonissue.

If you take Nicole P's advice, make sure she's not wearing a white T shirt AND your boyfriend is not watching.
Sorry, I got nothing else.

AFTER READING YOUR SO WHAT HAPPENED:

Dear "rather explosive" take care, you may be the cause of losing your boyfriend. Is he the father of your child? If so, why is he not living with you as a family? If the "girl next door" is just a distraction, meaning nothing....PLEASE just ignore her and concentrate on the family you may be trying to establish.

Blessings....

Do you live alone and your boyfriend visits? You must only give credit where credit is due. In your own words: "wanna make everyone happy guy"...Trust me, he probably wants to make himself happy too. Men like it when a pretty woman/girl pays attention.

If he's completely devoted to you, it will not be necessary for him or you, to tell this young woman to "SHOVE IT"....It will be necessary for he and you to ignore her.

Is there a reason why you are feeling insecure?

Blessings...

Play "You ain't Woman Enough to Take My Man" by Loretta Lynn loud enough for her to hear.
But seriously, this sounds like high school drama.

Sounds like he is too nice to do anything about it. If he kindly says no each time then that IS doing something about it but she just isnt getting the hint.

Does she hit on him right in front of you? If so why dont YOU tell her to knock it off? Nothing wrong with that.

She is not your problem. He is. Whatever you do, ignore her and focus on him.

If you have a healthy relationship with a man who really loves and honors you, then you will be able to talk to him about why her behavior bothers you. He should agree to shut her down by asking her to stop, and then ignoring her. If he doesn't want to say anything to her, then he cares more about her feelings than yours, and he may not be the right man for you.

Rather than think of it as holding on to your man no matter what, think of it as deciding whether or not a relationship with a man who doesn't care about your feelings is worth it.