I would protect MY son.
DO NOT LET YOUR SON, get bullied and teased.
That is teaching him nothing good.
That is teaching him... that he is 'worthless' and that he does not count and he will either get angry, have behavioral issues or run away from home, or become very timid and inward and not close to you.
He NEEDS you.. .to look out for HIM.
He is just a kid.
DO NOT listen to your Boyfriend.
If I had a boyfriend that did that to my son and said those things and allowed his kids to pick on my kid... I would dump him.
Because, he is NOT caring, about me or my kid.
Your kid comes first.
Your son is reacting that way... because otherwise, he as a child, 'fears' not being liked or loved. He is thus, PRETENDING to not be bothered by it... so that he fits in. Even if that means, he is the butt-end of all the jokes and gets picked on.
Why let that happen to your son?
It is not healthy. Mentally or emotionally.
The way they treat him, will not end. Nor when/if you get married.
Your son's life... will be this way.
It is sad.
They are sadistic.
It is plain MEAN.
Protect, your son.
Why let your son, have this kind of life?
It is not respectful nor caring. At all.
I feel so sorry, for your son.
This is not what life is, nor should be for a child... at home.
I personally would not marry a man like that, nor with kids like that, nor with a Man that allows his kids... to do that.
You still have a choice.
Your son does not. If you marry this man.
Why, allow your Boyfriend to decide what is best for your son? He is not showing he cares about your son's well being. At all.
You are the parent of your son.
Not your Boyfriend.
WHY on earth, should your son, be SUBMERGED... in this toxic dynamic?
It is not his fault.
He is so young.
The others are really damaging him.
Why would any Mom, want that for their child? It is a choice.
They, Your boyfriend and his kids, will NOT change.
They will not change.
They will not change.
But you can change the life for your son, and who his 'family' is.
This is not worth it.
Your Boyfriend/his kids, are really dysfunctional ya know.
Toxic.
It is INSTINCT in a Mom to STEP in and protect her child. Even if that means, DUMPING the Boyfriend and NOT marrying him.
There is no decision.
There is choice.
To do the right thing, for your son and you.
How he is treated, will determine what kind of "man" your son becomes. And if this continues... he will be stuck in a vicious cycle... of being treated this way and of maybe becoming like that TOO... to his Girlfriend and kids.
This is a no brainer.
I WOULD NOT WASTE MY TIME, anymore with him and his kids.
This has been going on for THREE years already!
What kind of hell, is that for a child since he was 6 years old?
NOTHING has changed.
They will not change.
They need to find another woman/child to be their Door-Mat.
Not your son or you.