I Edited This Post...

I make it a point not to be around negative people.

What's with this post anyway? Are you mad at someone? It is pretty insulting, most especially when you go back and change the question.

Nice job Christy Lee

My mom always used to harp on one particular thing in my life. So finally, when I was about 32, I said to her - look, let that be the last time that you ever ask me about that again. And to my amazement, she stopped.

Jeez... I took the time to respond to this so I am hitting the post button.

ChristyLee - you are awesome!! And quite positive, I might add!!

Nope. I don't believe in affirmations. Empty praise does not give rise to authentic self confidence.

If you want to be a person worthy of praise, you have to DO praiseworthy things. If you wish to be loved and appreciated, live your life as a person who is worthy of love and appreciation.

You don't suddenly become worthy just because you say "I'm worthy." That's a feely-good fallacy. Non sequitur. Nixon raised his hands and affirmed "I am not a crook." But he was.

ETA: Josie, you changed your entire question, and you're going to pretend you didn't?? Don't try gaslighting me or anyone else. I'm not the only one who saw your question before you changed it. Your original question, before you changed it was "Affirmations. Does anyone have any favorite affirmations?"

ETA2: I just wanted to say thank you to everyone here who posted in support. Thanks, mamas. ♥

Josie, for such a positive "do no harm" person, I am surprised that you don't have it in you to apologize when you make a mistake, wrongfully accuse someone, or wrongfully make someone out to be crazy or negative. A truly positive person would admit that they changed the post and apologize for the misunderstanding. I think that you have much to learn about positive thinking, Grasshopper. As I tried to explain above: Positive is as positive DOES.

ETA 3: "Self Righteous Drama Queens (0)"

Awwwwww....you scored YOURSELF? Practice what you preach, lady.

Umm... Sorry Josie, but that first person most definitely is NOT answering someone else's question... I also saw your original question, asking if anyone knew any good positive affirmations.

Personally, I find liars to be pretty negative people...

If you want to change your question, go for it... But don't try to make somebody else look bad because you decided you didn't like your original question.

Did you change this whole post from affirmations to negative minds?

Um I saw your what happened but I saw this titled affirmations when it was first posted, I am just wondering if you changed the words of your post along with the title.

What is your deal? What you tried to do to Christy is ignorant. Are you the negative person in your life?

Yeah, I gotta tell you... if this is your idea of being positive, I'd hate to see what you're like when you're negative.

ETA: Oh yeah, based on your SWH and the other peoples' responses, I know that you are two faced and dishonest. Yeah, I don't like the bait and switch form of asking questions. No quicker way to lose the respect of the women here. Go away. I am "positive" you don't belong here.

It is very hard to deal with people that are negative...but sometimes they are the people we love the most.

My mom is a very negative person. I try to find goodness in her and try to lighten the mood when we are together. Sometimes I even will make a comment about her negativity..sometimes they are so low they just don't see it.

Josie...I do want to add a little advice. I am not being mean or snarky. Once you push the button to post a question, it is immediately posted and we all see the title you post. Maybe people aren't responding right away but we see it. Then when we don't see it but another title in its place it actually catches our eye.

It looks really immature and shady to deny what we all saw and causes us to think twice about taking your post or future posts seriously or wanting to take time to answer future posts. I don't know why you chose to call out ChristyLee instead of just truthfully stating you wanted to change your title. No harm in changing it..but there is harm in lying.

Hmmm....

I, personally am NOT feeling a positive vibe from you on this post at all.

Like others have mentioned, lying and manipulation are not generally seen as 'positive' qualities...at least not in my world From those kinds of people, I distance myself. As I may be inclined to do with your future posts...

I employ my mental shield-- that is to say, I am aware that person is negatively focused and so I just make that adjustment in my brain: "oh, this is really about them and their perception, not about me or my reality" and move on with my day.

Or, just stop connecting with that person. Let them go from your life. Make a boundary or three.

I like what Christy Lee said.

ETA: wow, you know, changing your answer and getting bitchy with Christy Lee? Totally about YOU. Find a mirror and don't throw our homegirl under the bus for answering you honestly. Utter BS, that. A *positive* person would have kindly said "oh, I changed my question but thanks for responding to what I originally asked."

I don't know what your game is but you did change your question. Christy Lee answered your ORIGINAL question about affirmations and then you changed your question. Weird.

I consider dishonesty and manipulation to be VERY negative qualities.

Yeah, really bizarre. I saw the affirmations post from you as well. Didn't comment though. Why are you putting Christy Lee on blast? Weird!

But to answer THIS current question, I have to be careful because I tend to look at the glass half empty, especially in stressful situations, which seem to be my life lately. My husband, always half full. I am a work in progress and strive to do better.

MIsery loves company, if you keep finding yourself surrounded by these type of people that should tell you something.

Josie,

To be honest? This doesn't sound like a positive post to me. You sound condescending and rude to me.

If someone on this board has offended you? You can report it. Otherwise? You cannot expect people to blow sunshine up your skirt with every question...

If it's not on this board and in your private life? I would wonder if you are a magnet for negative people? You pity them? Or give them acceptance of their attitude?

If you have negative people in your life? How do you approach them and tell them you've had enough? You simply tell them the truth. You tell them that their negativity is like a dark cloud around them and you can't have that any more...attitude is everything...if you think negative, you will get negative...

ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING!!

I avoid them. Even family members. And if I can't unfriend them on Facebook I simply hide them.
Ain't nobody got time for that!

Um ... Shoot, everything I have to say is negative. Oh well.

I don't...I don't even have them in my life. If someone is negative I slowly start weeding them out or talk to them as less as possible

You limit your time around them. Only do stuff with them where there are other people around. You just don't set yourself up to be around that very much.

But you might want to consider they are having a hard time and might need someone who cares to listen. If they are that person then you might want to take some time and sit together and listen, not giving your opinion, just listening.

I do not see where you did nothing more than just post.

I agree with you. These mothers take this site way too seriously. It is just a place to talk to cypermoms and cyberfriends.

Therapists are trained. We are not. Some of the mothers here get carried away with their righteous advice.