Needing Good "Sex Talk" Material

Updated on August 04, 2009
H.T. asks from Greenwood, IN
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Well, it's that time!! My 8 year old son asked what SEX meant. Not sure to what extent I should answer. I have yet to ask him what exactly he knows about it before I start into the "well, when a mommy and daddy love each other.........blah blah" He seems to know enough to make him embarrased when the word is brought up on TV, radio, etc. I want to be open with him but not overwhelm him with information. Have any of you wonderful ladies used reference material or books that you would suggest to me? I know you can help me out!! Thanks a bunch!!

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D.T.

answers from Muncie on

Asking him what he knows is a good start. After that I would stick with very simplified facts, but talk to him like an adult.

An example: "Sex is something very personal and special and private between two people(or between a man and a woman after they are married). When two people (or the couple) love and care for each other and want to show it in a very special way(or when they have decided to have a baby) they have sex. It involves a lot of hugging and kissing and a few other things you don't need to worry about right now."

You can be as liberal or as conservative about it as you feel comfortable. I showed both options. Hope it makes sense.

Good luck.

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M.C.

answers from Cleveland on

Hi H.,

I haven't tried this, but yesterday I saw a commercial on the tv for a website. It is sponsored by the government and the commercial said it is supposed to help parents talk to their kids about sex, drugs, alcohol....you know, all the fun topics. Anyway, I believe the website was parents.org. Good luck! My kids are 3.5 and 1.5 years old so I have a while before I will be making the same posting.:)

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L.J.

answers from Cincinnati on

Dear H.,
Go to gfi.com. (Growing Families International) They have a curriculum especially for that topic. It uses an approach that they can understand. It also has many other topics for growing kids. L. J

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J.H.

answers from Cincinnati on

Here are some FABULOUS books all by Robie Harris. The last one is for older kids.

It's So Amazing!: A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families

It's Not the Stork: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends

It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health

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L.H.

answers from Youngstown on

The best advice that was given to me was to answer truthfully and give them just enough to satisfy them. Your son may not care to know the details of what sex is and may just want to know that sex is were babies come from. True - not detailed and it may be enough to satisfy him for now. You know your son best and will be the perfect judge as to just how much he wants to know. Better from you with your perspective on how you want him to view sex than someone elses. You may want to open with where he heard the term as well and have discussions on the appropriateness of using the term. Good luck - this is always a hard subject.
-L.

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J.F.

answers from Toledo on

Are you sure he's referring to "sex" as a verb? My daughter asked me what sex was after reading a form I was filling out (though I didn't realize she had read it). I asked her why she wanted to know and she said "because that paper said 'sex...M or F' on it." So I was able to explain to her that each person has a sex which means if they are a boy or girl.

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