Need Some insight...TMI Warning!!

It's common enough for Chris Rock to have a whole comedy routine about it.

No, I wouldn't say it's normal as a function of age. It's probably a sign of something else...you feel that you're giving more than you're getting, you feel used, you're unsatisfied with something else, etc.

Rather than assume it's related to age (in fact, many couples get more adventurous as they get older because they're a bit bored with the same old, same old and they feel safe enough with their spouse to explore), figure out what's really at the root of your lack of enjoyment. Does he ask in a way that's demeaning? Are you tired and just want to sleep? Is oral a way of getting him off while you're kind of left with nothing? Try to really identify what's going on with you when it happens so that you can solve the real problem.

OK - not trying to make light - but I LOL. I have never liked oral sex. I do it anyway cause he likes it - so long as I get something that I like in return (like a vibrator mmmmm) ha ha ha. Immature, I know, to giggle about sex at 43. You are not crazy. No worries. There are so many ways to enjoy sex. Girl - buy one of those books with like 1000 ideas and go crazy, he'll love it.

I think sexual desires fluctuate a lot during our lives. I think it has less to do with age and more to do with the natural changes people go through. For me, the important thing is to find a balance between what I like and what he likes. Oral may not be my favorite thing, but he really enjoys it so I would never remove it from our time together, just as there are things he does that are more for me then they are for him.

I can understand where you're coming from. I am at the transition between early to mid thirties and leaving the honeymoon stage in my marriage. Sometimes what kills my motivation to please my husband is orally is thinking of all the things he did that day (bowel movements and working out) and comes to bed without taking a shower. I've talked to my husband about that, have you tried talking to your husband about your concerns with oral sex?

I agree with JB,there might be something subconsciously that is stopping you from enjoying it. My husband was my first and only so it took me a long time to enjoy it. Oral sex does not mean you have to do it until orgasms more as foreplay. That's what it is for us.As for what Funluvingmomof2 said could that be it too? He isn't clean when he wants oral sex? Our doctor that we had years ago said to always take a shower before sex. If people don't do that,it is just gross and disrespectful to me to expect sex.

Good luck

I don't think it has to do with age. And if it did, you would be way too young. I thought you were going to say you were mid-50's.

I agree with another poster that our sex drive fluctuates a lot.